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Crazy ex...what's the deal??

Gana's picture

Okay...my husband has custody of his teenage boys and last night they were with their BM and he calls them every time they are with her so last night he called them on their cell phones to say goodnight....then BM calls back about 10 minutes later and asks how to spell a word because they are finishing homework at 10:30 at night...he told her how to spell it and he was nice on the phone and also said it's pretty late for them to still be doing homework and then he hung up..then 5 minutes later she calls freaking out on the phone that we need to get along and going into about she did this and she did that for the kids but she doesnt' have custody does she. Anyway, my question is why is she doing this, one minute calling and being nice and then freaking out because he was nice on the phone. Why is she still bringing up the past about what she did and keeps saying things won't go into them all about putting him down about the reason for their divorce and that we need to get along. He doesn't argue back at all with her. She just can't let go of the past with THEM not even about the kids it's about how he has his life together and she does now but it took her longer and so on and so on. Also why did she call him couldn't she have called her family or checked the computer to figure out how to spell the word or have her son call his dad. WHY???

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Everyones Interest's picture

but it sounds like she took his 'pretty late for them to still be doing homework' comment as a 'dig'.

Whether he meant it as a dig or not, she may have perceived it as such and got sensitive about it.

Not a big deal...maybe she felt she was 'extending an olive branch' and he took the opportunity to 'bash' her.

Or maybe she's just nuts...?!?!

stuknaz's picture

My BM cursed me out on Friday and had the nerve to invite me and DH to church on Sunday! :O

"And this too shall pass..."

soon2bstep's picture

Oh I cant tell you how many times I've seen the same thing. Bm does this almost on a daily basis with my FH. She will call and ask something about SD and be real nice. Then send a nasty text about something completely different like.. WHY DO YOU GIVE SD ICE CREAM. You dont care, your a bad father. Only add in a whole bunch of profanities! Its a mystery what goes through that woman's head!

LizzieA's picture

Our BM used to try to rehash the divorce. But, with that piece of paper, she gave up her "license to bitch." DH finally told her, I'm not going to revisit it, let's stick to the topic at hand.

Your BM needs to work it out with a friend or therapist. She probably did react to the lateness remark, but he has every right to make it. I doubt those kids are getting enough sleep. She was trying to show how "good" she is helping with homework. I bet a dollar that she doesn't usually do that.

Gana's picture

Hey Lizzie. You are correct. I'm the one who does all the homework. They are with her one or two days out of the week she acts like she does it all it is so fustrating. I just hate the fact that she brings up their past she needs to discuss the boys and them only...not how he things could have been different and how you have your life now and on and on. Is she jealous of us or what? I hate the fact that she bashes us in front of the boys is that making them be mad at us or do you think they know what is going on. He wants to stop calling them at night when they are with her becuase there is always so much drama and he doesn't know if that is right to do or not???. The reason why he asks questions is because she usually works at night now and has her friend watch them so he wants to make sure who is there with them. I'm so tired of her telling him how bad of a father he was when he has custody of them...

onehappygirl's picture

. . . because she needed to know how to spell a word??? What the hell? Hello!!! Ever hear of a friggin dictionary????

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