SS13 has been grounded for failing on his report card. For Christmas we got him a new phone and he got to keep it until report cards came out. The stipulations were....passing grades, good behavior, do your chores. Pretty fair I think. He hasn't made any effort on the grades. Doesn't do his homework, low test scores etc. SS lives with us full time. Anyway, BM apparently thinks this is wrong and is going to buy him a phone this weekend since we took his away. How can you try to coparent with someone who disregards everything you try to do as a parent to instill responsibility? I realize what goes on over there you have no control over but why would you not ask your son why he got his phone taken? I guess it's just to make HB(dad) look like the bad guy all the time. Is this a form of PAS? I have no idea why I continue to let BMs ignorance bother me.