Would like some opinions on what you would do in this situation.
Here is the situation....I get a text from SD15 today (while she is in school) asking me to talk to her dad about letting her go to a basketball game.
Here is what I did....I immediately called DH and told him what happened. I went on to tell him that SD could have waited until she got home from school to ask. I also reminded DH that SD got her cell phone taken away by the principal this past Thursday for texting during class (because another classmate ratted her out). I informed DH that I was sending her a message back stating "We will talk about it when you get home". So when SD got home, she says did you talk to dad...because my one friend said that she would come pick me up to go and she has had her license for 6 months. I said, well first what class were you in when you sent me that text. SDs reply was "I was in the bathroom." I said, so you asked your teacher if you could go to the bathroom just so could send me that text? SD said yes. I then said that there was no reason for her to have sent me that text when it was something that could have waited until she got home. I then went to say that if you get you phone taken away again because of texting during class, neither your dad or I will sign for you to get it back. I then told her that no she could not go to the game. SD says, but my friend can take me. U said that there is no way her dad or I was going to let her go in a car with someone we do not know.
So here is my question....SD feels that DH & I did not handle the situation properly. How would you have handled this type of situation? I felt that it was handled just fine, but maybe I am wrong.
- Shell97's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Yeah, I think you handled it
Yeah, I think you handled it fine. I don't know too many kids that think their parents handle these types of situations right, unless they are getting what they want... didn't you know... it is soooo unfair!!!!! LOL
"I will not take responsibility, where I do not have authority." ~ MeanOleMe
I think you did the right
I think you did the right thing in not letting her go to the game. Also, the texting during school when she's all ready gotten in trouble for this would warrant the phone being taken away for a few days during school, in my opinion. As far as your SD thinking you did not handle the situation properly.........Who cares? Teenagers will NEVER think any punishment is properly handled. You guys are doing the right thing by giving a punishment and consequence and sticking to it. Lots of parents fall through on these things.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
Not for nothing, but who
Not for nothing, but who cares if SD doesn't think you and DH handled the situation well??
She is the child you two are the adults..That's it end of story! No room for discussion.
"And this too shall pass..."
You handled it fine. If
You handled it fine. If they are caught in our HS using their phone they lose it for the quarter. Our kids know they better not get caught using it during class or we will take it away indefinitely. Also, here they can not drive anyone for 1 year after they have their license that is not an immediate family member. Thank god - one less issue to deal with.
Here the law for teenagers
Here the law for teenagers and driving are as follows....if they have their inter-mediate license (which they have until they are 18), 1 passenger OR Only people who live in driver's home OR Any passenger if accompanied by licensed driver at least 21years old. Which I feel that law is a little vague. But SD knows our rule about riding with people who have not had their license very long and especially when we don't even know the person.
I think you did great. I
I think you did great. I especially like the part about telling her that you won't sign for it if the phone is taken away again.
Our schools started doing the whole, the parents have to come and get the phone back if it's taken up. I heard that so many parents complained about that. Hello?? don't they get it. There kid broke a rule and there are repercussions. If it's too much of a hassle for you to come and get it back, I'm sure the school would be happy to keep it until the last day.
This year, they changed it to it costs $25 AND the parents have to come and get it. Even if one of my kids handed me the $25 immediately, their phone would sit there for a week. Maybe, I'd add $25 fee of my own to go and get it for them, lol.
Thank you all for confirming
Thank you all for confirming that DH & I handled this properly. DH & I are still learning on how to deal with a teenage girl. I mean we have had to deal with her before, but now that SD lives with us it is a little different. So I constantly question myself, wondering if we are doing things right.
I'm not sure if I agree that the school can charge a set fee for taking a students phone away. But then again, it prevent the students from using it during class if they know they will have to pay to get it back.