How many of you have slept with your EX after it was over?
Just curious. My EX was a "two pump chump", so why would I even bother? I had better things to do like: watch grass grow, watch paint dry, wash my hair, trim my toenails, etc............
I just don't get this. And also, FH told me that BM was never really into sex that much and that she was not as "adventurous" as I am.
In my mind, if it's over - IT'S OVER.
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I did, but I was very clear
I did, but I was very clear it was just sex. He knew it and so did I. I guess it was filling a void for both of us but it wasn't very healthy and when I moved on I think he was hurt and confused the sex with a relationship. I wouldn't be too upset. He wasn't with you and he probably didn't tell you early on because he was afraid to. That you may think it meant more than it did. I can understand being upset at him for lying but I think considering that you were not even in the picture at the time should cause you to rethink your position. I do understand though, for me it's more the fact that he actually slept with her at all! I tell him the fact that you married her is my one and only disappointment in you. It really makes me question your ability to make good decisions." LOL
I have all ready forgiven
I have all ready forgiven him for his lie and transgression. We hugged, kissed, and made up. This man is so worried about me possibly leaving that he will tell stupid lies. It just hurts when I hear this crap from a third party and I have to stand there and act like I knew it all along.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
im really bad about
im really bad about this...unless there is major drama, the relationship is ending because im over it, but its not ever because there was issues with the sex, so alot of times i continue to sleep with my ex till im in another relationship, bad i know but i guess it has been my way of getting that interaction with out the complications of a new person.
I totally understand "the
I totally understand "the comfortable old shoe theory", and that it's safe and doesn't mean anything. I'm not saying that I have NEVER done this - just not with my ex-husband. I had some "revenge" sex, (or a grudge F**K, as we say around these parts) with an old boyfriend ONE time and it was great! But I told my FH about this when he asked since we run in such close circles. I would not have wanted him to hear this from somebody else.
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
yeah, but im starting to
yeah, but im starting to realize men almost never admit to these types of things, just the way they are programmed...and honestly, i think they do it at times because they think they are doing the right thing from saving us from info that they think might hurt us.
i dont ask about dh's past because i dont want him asking about mine...imo, i think that the past is the past and stuff like that has no business being brought up.
However, if bm is a vindictive bitch like our bm, and would throw it in your face later for some reason, then i do agree that dh should have told you so that you were not caught off guard or made to feel the fool
I wouldn't have had sex with
I wouldn't have had sex with my ex after the breakup...not even using someone elses p***y. "Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
AWESOME response! Ha
AWESOME response! Ha Ha
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
LOL!!!!! BBB, You SLAY
LOL!!!!!
BBB, You SLAY me!!!!!
BB
You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved
why thank you! lol, it's so
why thank you! lol, it's so true though. My favorite line to the ex was, "Honey, I wouldn't come near you ever again even if I had a 20foot poll with someone else's kittykat on the end of it...No way. Take that walking biohazard to someone who likes that sort of thing."
*sighing at good memories* oh the look on his face was so classic and wounded. Good times,Good times.
"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."
Why would I have wanted a
Why would I have wanted a jack-ass when I had a stallion in my stable??
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I absolutely have a
I absolutely have a "stallion" in my stable in my FH.
But he is also a jackass?
Go figure......
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
Let me just say that the
Let me just say that the difference between my Ex and my DH is "HUGE"!!!
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Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!
VERY NICE!!!!! **my
VERY NICE!!!!!
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
LOL- mine is a stallion and
LOL- mine is a stallion and I'm not talking the horse's ass the x-idiot was
**I only have one shot at a truly great life and not one spent waiting for a man to notice me, want me, love me and be true to only me. 2010 is the year of "me" - if you don't want to be a has-been in '10 where I'm concerned better get it in gear and catch up**
EW EW EW EW EW EW EW
EW EW EW EW EW EW EW EWWWWWW!!!!!!
I mean, no.
BB
You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved
You didnt know him yet when
You didnt know him yet when he slept with his ex, did you?
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"
are you serious? **my
are you serious?
**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**
i never have gone back to my
i never have gone back to my ex..probably because he cheated on me so many times that i had lost interest in him years before we divorced..
I found out recently that DH was in fact still getting booty calls with his ex gf that he lived with for 2 years prior to us meeting for a couple months after we started seeing each other.. i wouldnt sleep with him for about 3 months after we started going out so he had to go somewhere I guess.. but it hurt because i was trying to build trust in him, after my ex husband cheated on me so many times, i trusted no one... so now almost 2 years later, a baby and wedding, i found out he had betrayed my trust by going back to his x-gf.. i trust he wouldnt cheat on me now, but man it really burns to know he did in the beginning...
We didnt have sex when we
We didnt have sex when we were married. SO no, I'd probably win the lottery first.
Not no, but HELL NO! The
Not no, but HELL NO!
The last time I had sex with him (coz it wasn't makin' love!) was in..March, 2007. Only coz he begged, but then he couldn't complete his part (as usual).
He got into some stuff that I tried, and hated, but he got obsessed with it. Turned me off and that's what broke our marriage after 20 years. Yeah, TWENTY years!
~*~It's all fun and games until somebody loses an eye; then it's a game: Find the eye.~*~
Yup Yup.. because he was
Yup Yup.. because he was GREAT in bed. We only had problems whenever he opened his mouth.
I did...unfortunately. I
I did...unfortunately. I think with pretty much all my exes, there was always one or two more times after the official break. It was never very long afterwards though, like right after the breakup.
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"
No way... when it was over,
No way... when it was over, it was O-V-E-R!
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
Ewwwww, I just ate! I shiver
Ewwwww, I just ate! I shiver just at the thought of it. Hell, we stopped BEFORE we divorced. Gross.
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Hell no!!! Although one
Hell no!!! Although one time when I went over there to get some of my stuff, he asked me to . . . ahem . . . get him off. Ewww, ewww, ewwww!!!! I ran out the door and never went back. I never did get the rest of my stuff. Doesn't matter, I didn't want that stuff from my old life, and Truelight bought me better things.
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