Hey Ladies - I just wanted to drop everyone a note and let you know that - in the big scheme of things - in all reality - New Year's Eve is just another night in our world... just another night in our lives.

Yes, we do "celebrate" it and use it as a milestone. But that pressure, or that importance - is placed on this one night by society, by us.

I have had some really fun, great New Years Eves. I have had some very lonely, sad, confused New Year's Eve. I can think of one New Year's Eve in particular, where I had found out that the man I thought I loved, and that loved me for 5 years, didn't care anything about me, and was able to literally cut me out of his life in a moment. I'm older, so I have had my share of drunken - "Oh No! What did I do?" New Year's Eves... and working New Year's Eves. One New Year's Eve that I worked was one of the best nights of my life!! And the other.... well, the other was me working in my field, which was what I wanted, but missing my new boyfriend - my now husband....

The thing is... I survived. And you will too. And you know what else? That one night doesn't make or break the year, or the decade.

If you had a fantastic fun New Year's Eve - I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU. But for my ST friends that had a rough one.... don't worry. It's not the end or the beginning. It's just a night that sucked and now is over.

My final thought on this is that we are the ones that have the power within ourselves to make these nights "our standard" or to just brush them off and stand up. It is a hard urge to resist.... and I don't think it's always a good urge to resist!! But if it was a tough one for you, then, if you can, let it go. Things will get better.

How many of us have celebrated some random day of the week or specific date of the month because it was special to US and us alone? That's how we sometimes may have to look at some of these holidays. We win some, we lose some.

This is coming from someone who was sick and whose husband was away in Detroit. We rang in the New Year on the phone. No hugs, no sparkly dress, no kisses. Although I did have a glass of bubbly - alone. And that was okay too. I did miss my husband terribly.... but ... I had him on the phone. I had him. That's all I needed.

Here's to finding out what we each truly, individually need in 2010!

((( Hugs my friends )))