Our SIL and BIL invited us over for a holiday party on Christmas Day. They had asked my husband if he wanted them to invite his two older children. He said no - that they had refused to talk to him all year so he saw no reason for inviting their drama to a party with family and friends! Besides they had refused SIL's last two invitations to a baby shower and to their new grandchild's christening so we did not think that not inviting them would be a big deal(no RSVP - just did not show up- part of their continuous will we or won't we show up drama).

Well during the middle of festivities, Adult SS 35 calls the house phone at SILs house. SIL and her Bdaughter 31 decided not to answer - SIL saying she did not want to talk to him. Shortly afterwards he calls again. Again, SIL says she does not want to talk to him and does not answer the phone! How pathetic can you get???? Calling to probably try to create havoc in the middle of the party or to wrangle an invitation! He must have learned that there was a gathering and he wasn't invited! In the middle of these phone calls - he sends texts to my minor BDs who he never talks to and last year at this time threatened us that he had their cell numbers and we better not change them! BDs refused to text him back as they did the last time he did this at Easter. They extremely dislike him trying to use them in this manner! Anyway these texts were sent during the party which was late chrismas day duirng the evening Christmas party. It makes me wonder if he was stalking us! I can just picture SS 35 saying to SD 33 and BM that he was going to show us he was going to call and demand that he get to come over. I have heard him make these kind of threats about other things when he doesn't get his way so this is very plausible!

SS 35 typically does not call my BIL and SIL or their BD 31 as he has made no secret that he and his sister do not like them! SS 35 was always jealous of BIL and SIL's BD 31 when he was growing up and his sister SD 33 even threatened to beat her up! However, ever since he has been refusing to talk to his father he has been falling all over himself apolgizing and making amends with all of husband's other family members in an attempt to manipulate them and to ostracize his father. Yes! he is that delusional that he thinks that he can acomplish this after beings so ugly to most of these people for years - shades of narcissim!

This also reminded me of all of the Christmas Eve's when pathetic BM would call the Skids during our annual Christmas Eve family party at my MILs constantly (more than 3 times during the evening) to supposedly let skids know where she was and how much fun she was having! As though we cared - it simply showed me how much it bothered her although I don't understand why!

Based upon SS 35's behavior on Christmas Day I was waiting for H to get another nasty phone call. However, I think that this may be defused somehwhat because instead SS 35 arranged with SD 33 a private meeting with BIL and SILs' BD 31 at SIL and BILs home last night to see SIL's BD 31's new baby (you know the one SS 35 and SD 33 could not be bothered to visit yet - baby is almost 4 months old now). I have not heard whether SS 35 pitched a fit with SIL or BIL yet when he finally got hold of someone to arrange this invitation. I did however hear via H that BIL asked him if we wanted to come also but H declined - BIL indicated he didn't want to see them either and would opt out if he could!

Well it seems that Skids were desperate to let H know that they were at BIL's house as SD 33's arrogant husband calls him last night to ask where his wife was???? WTH??? He knew that SD 33 has not been talking to her father and that she was at my husband's brother's home not ours. The ONLY reason he would have called H like that was to make sure that my H knew that SD 33 was at his brothers being entertained I quess - thinking that he was rubbing salt in what he thought would be my H's wounded back! However, my H seemed more DISGUSTED than anything! I simply replied that I had always known SD 33's husband was not a nice guy!

I don't think that they will drop it at this though. Knowing their confrontational nature they will not be able to handle knowing that their father has twice elected to either not invite them somewhere or not to attend something that they will be attending. This is the first time he has NOT been the doormat for them for the slight change that they might talk to him or agree to see him and I do not envision that this will sit well as they are so used to feeling as though they are in the driver's seat and that H will do anything to be in their presence. I don't think that they will take it well knowing that H is no longer dangling on their string! So we wait for their next tirade so that they once again feel as tough they are in control because we know that they have to feel as though this situation is within their control!