My husband just accused "MY" kids of stealing!!! WTF?!
My bracelet is missing, that is a gift for one of my dear friends, the last I saw it, it was in my bedroom, in the bag from the jewelry store in a felt bag, in a jewelry box, I looked in the bag this morning and it's GONE....
I was pissed, stomping around the house, asking my kids [16 & 9] if they have seen it, they both said no.
We are on our way to work, and my husband says well ask the kids again and I'll bet you find it.. he said, did you see [my son's] face when I asked him about it. I said yes I did. I said I think [my son] would have told him me he had taken it. He said.. and [your daughter]are you sure she didn't like that bracelet? I said.. Umm.. wow.. so what are you saying? My kids are theives and liars??? He said no.. but it seems like you [meaning me] are insinuating that me or my son took the bracelet. I said.. Umm when in this conversation have I accused you are your son [5years] of taking the bracelet. He said because I was so adamant about my own kids not taking it, and just brushed it off because they said that they didn't that he bets I find it. He said when he was a young boy he used to like to take his mother's jewelry because it was hers and important to him. I am so mad I can't see straight right now. His son has taken things constantly and played with them.. but he insisted his son NEVER goes in our room.. YEAH RIGHT!How would you guys handle this? I put up with a lot of STRESS dealing with this whole custody battle with his son, and I am very hurt by what he has said today. My kids and I are not second class citizens to my husband and his kid!
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My stepfather used to accuse
My stepfather used to accuse my brother and I constantly. One time he accused us of stealing a pair of jeans and my mother FLIPPED out on him. Then he ended up finding the jeans in his closet under another pair.
my point is...it was very traumatic to have a stepparent accuse me of stealing when I've never stolen anything in my whole life. my mother was wrong to just sit and take it even for a minute...DO NOT let your husband sit and make your children out to be that way. It's not fair. No one should get accused until you're absolutely POSITIVE it was them. He needs to keep his mouth shut about it in my opinion. Sorry, this kind of thing just pisses me off bc of what I went through as a kid. I can't tolerate accusations of stealing with no cause for the accusation.
An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind. ~Mahatma Gandhi
Very sorry you had to go
Very sorry you had to go through that! I am so pissed it's tying my stomach in a knot! He didn't accuse them to their faces, but he may as well have, it was bad enough saying it to me! I won't tolerate it!
That was a great
That was a great story!
Thanks for that.. I needed to smile before I killed someone :o)
Ah, the joys of multiple
Ah, the joys of multiple kids in a house means you can get away with stuff as long as your parents don't know who to pin it on (I'm one of 4 kids)! If one of the kids has taken the bracelet, then you need to get all 3 of them together to ask the question again, perhaps offer an amnesty with no punishment if whoever took it owns up. If none of them are owning up, both of you need to make sure you avoid insisting that your child(ren) are telling the truth, as if so you are insinuating that the other person's are lying. You've then got 2 options - either let it go or punish all 3 of them.
Hmmm.. I will look really
Hmmm.. I will look really well myself before I do anything else.
We have four kids. What we
We have four kids. What we do is bring them all together in the livingroom, state the crime, and ask who did it. We offer a light punishment if someone comes forward that instant. If no one admits it, then they are all punished. If we later find out who did the crime, then it is deemed that not only did they do the crime, but the lied about it, then a more severe punishment is in store. We find that when we punish all of the kids, they usually do their own investigation and the perp's deeds will be uncovered. Once we find out who did the crime, the others are let off the hook, usually with a big root beer float, while the perp serves his punishment that will fit the crime in addition to the lie.
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Can you lock your bedroom
Can you lock your bedroom door? If his son has a habit of taking things that do not belong to him and playing with them, he should understand that you aren't comfortable with that. If the bracelet doesn't turn up, I would seriously consider locking the door. That way, no one can be accused of taking anything again.
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."
Only from the inside with me
Only from the inside with me in it!
I may have misplaced it, although I don't believe I did.
I will look thoroughly tonight just to make sure