bad day vent!
maybe getting it out will help.
ok so as i always say, dh is an amazing husband and we really do have a great relationship. Court was a sucess, and bm has been pretty well behaved. bm claimed last week she was looking for a preschool for ss, and would let dh know asap so he could agree or disagree on ss going there. i also have pulled a list of surrounding places and cost, etc. bm has done NOTHING, supposedly she turned in paper work ans hes on a waiting list...ummmmmm what if we dont agree with that place one, two would it kill you to go to more than one place? its not like her un employed fat azz has anything else to do.
last night im at home early because i was in pain from the dentist. i get up to make food for ss because i knew he wouldnt want to eat left overs from the night before (dh and ss never eat left overs because i cook every night)
first thing dh says when he walks in the door is that bm gave him attitude because she had to drive all the way to our complex, and dh didnt meet her half way. ummmmmmm, excuse me bitch, you are the one not working, pocketing my child care money, and the one who pulled him out of child care, so bring you happy azz down here to pick up and drop off ss! trust me if i didnt have to see youre ugly face every day i would be happy, but youre the one who made it this way!!! (this is what i would have said) but noooooooooooooooooooo dh says nothing!
then i notice that ss is wearing hideous clothes that are obviously from bm's house not ours. dh informs me that ss was playing in the mud and got dirty so bm changed him. ummmmmmmmm, why didnt she change him first and let him ruin her clothes? I dont buy clothes for him to play in dirt at her white trash castle. (thats what i would have said.....what does dh say? you guessed it, NOTHING! because they were old clothes.
then while eating, after like 3 bites, ss announces that bm already fed him cookies, hot chocolate, chili and other junk food items...why was it not discussed that the dipshit wasnt suppose to feed him junk and dinner?, we always eat as a family.
this morning i go into the living roon, ss is eating cereal(dry) sitting on the couch. a couple of days ago, i found corn pops in the rug, and told dh NO MORE eating for ss in living room! uh, i guess he forgot. when i ask, "didnt we agree no more eating in the living room?" he responds, "or are you gonna find something to be mad about today too?" i wanted to freaking scream!
my issue is this, i cant let go! im so angry that bm gets away with everything, dh never tells her where to stick it unless she starts the argument. My mother in law is the most evil nasty cunt faced bitch in the world and i really wish she would just die so i never had to hear her name again, but because dh no longer has anything to do with her im supposed to just get over all the things she still does, like try to help bm take ss away from us. i take it out on dh, but i know its not him im really angry with. im an emotional wreck, and once again dh and i are going at it because he feels im always negative...ugh, i feel better, i really need to stop letting bm take up so much time and energy....i just hate that horrible people always get away with murder!
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I hear ya! It does seem
I hear ya! It does seem that horrible people always get away with murder! My sd being one of them! She treats people like their dirt. It's all about her and she does nothing wrong! It's everyone else! UGh!!! :sick:
Are we married to the same
Are we married to the same man and have the same BM and MIL??? or is it just a coincidence??? lol well my BM is not fat sadly...she is all the other things...so is my MIL, but she morbidly obese fat...
but even if you cant let go...you still just have to LET GO!!! because your DH (and mine) are too fed up to deal with the ongoing bs from these women who dont make sense...and youre going to make yourself sick with stress...but I'm trying to console you and convince myself at the same time...send me a pm if you want, maybe we can come up with a plan to get rid of BM and MIL...(maybe we can send them to mexico and they will conviniently catch the A H1N1 flu?? or Alaska and they will freeze?)
hahahaha, i wish! but i
hahahaha, i wish!
but i would much rather just run mil over with a truck! just like she tries to run over my life with her bullcrap!
yes but if your run her
yes but if your run her over, that leaves marks, therefor evidence! if she happens to freeze or suffer from the flu,it cannot be traced back to you! (you gotta think like a ciminal LOL just like those BM and MIL that are like poison)
So funny, i feel like i
So funny, i feel like i could have written your blog, how about putting a venomous snake in the car... ooops
If DH was held more
If DH was held more responsible for handling things with BM, maybe then would he get to the point where he would tell her where to stick it?
Also, I've found that when I have certain expectations out of someone that I know probably won't do the right thing, I'm constantly disappointed or angry with them. When you stop holding certain expectations from someone, you don't have anything to be let down or angry about.
For example, you expected that BM should look for more daycare options, you expected BM to put SS in decent clothes, you expected that BM shouldn't give attitude about driving to your complex....maybe if you stopped expecting things out of her that she can't uphold, you won't get yourself disappointed when she doesn't do the things you've expected out of her.
Not saying that she shouldn't do these things, or that these things are simple enough for anyone to follow thru on, but if maybe if you put it in this perspective that I described, it will help the next time she doesn't follow thru the way she should.
I understand how frustrating it is! ((Hugs)) to you!
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Nikki, BTDT a million times
Nikki,
BTDT a million times over! I don't know what happened, but one day I just decided that BM was always going to continue to get away with murder and I had to find something else to obsess about. I had to stop worrying about it. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Again, I don't know how I did it, but I know you can do. I know from reading about you, that you are a very determined person. Therefore, if you put your mind to finding something else to focus on, you will! HUGS
SMNikki - Stay strong, don't
SMNikki - Stay strong, don't let "da bastards" get ya down!
Hopefully by the time you get this, things will be a little better.
Just remember... ss is going to get a little older and eventually he will really "see" where the junk food is and where the "family meals" are.
And DH... he's probably just a little frayed from court. I don't know if your husband is like mine, but mine would be a great poker player, if he liked to gamble. He's very calm and lets everything slide off his back. And then, once the stresses are past, he lets his guard down a little. He can become short-tempered, or just "not himself", but it's mainly due to mental exhaustion from holding it all in. I'm sure you are feeling a little raw and emotional too.
My sister recently went to court, and even though she ended up doing fine as well, she started crying upon telling the story afterward. My other sister was like, "Why are you crying? It went great!", but I knew. I knew it was just the release of all the stress she had been holding in. Her body took over and she cried.
Stay strong!! Stay connected to your DH and let him stay connected to you! Love up that little cuddlebug of a stepson you have!
You guys have made in through the first ring of fire. Now just "breathe"!!! 
Best wishes and hugs to you honey!!
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