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Why do these skids think they're special?

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Submitted by Chmmy on Mon, 12/30/2019 - 1:50pm

...because daddeeeee told them so.

My son 23 is home for the holidays. Unfortunately so are the skids. 24/7. My son rarely eats processed or fast food but asked if we can get a box of 20 McDonald's chicken nuggets he can share with his step brothers. Sure why not, its the holidays lol junk food! Anyway ss13 wants to be special every time.  Never eats what everyone else eats. Getting one box of nuggets as a treat has turned in to "i want a chicken sandwich" which will most likely turn in to the other one wants a chicken sandwich. I shouldn't have said anything but just showed up with a box for my son and let him share. The skids can share with him or eat what we have in the house but DH will get them whatever they want and if sd17 decides she wants something different from McDonald's he will go the exta 20 minute round trip to Wendys. FML.

I hate that Im wishing my time away with my son because Im wishing for these little fucks to go back to school. And by the way DH is the biggest problem of them all. They didnt act like assholes til he walked in the door from work.

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Submitted by Thisisnotus on Mon, 12/30/2019 - 2:02pm

preach it! For real. That was my life non-stop, and then just comopletely stopped any eating out or any sort of treats when skids are around.....I can't even remember the last time I was out to eat with skids....it has probably been a year.....

DH and I would be like, hey lets go through drive thru McDonalds and we can all get a $1 drink and that is it........so that would be about $6 for all of us.....but every single time....skids would demand...oh I want a large fry....oh I want nuggets...oh I want a smoothy....so our $6 stop turned into a $26 stop....so I put an end to it since DH can't say NO.....

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Mon, 12/30/2019 - 2:26pm

I try not to eat fast food when I have my SD for the same exact reason.  I feel like she intentionally orders the most expensive items possible and daddy will never tell her no.  

Honestly, I have started waiting until after SD visits to even go to the grocery.  If I go and buy a week's worth of groceries when we have SD she will consume the majority of it by the end of her visit.  She over indulges on everything.  What 12 yo goes through an entire bag of french fries in 2 days?!?!? My SD.  DH sees nothing wrong with her over eating (and she is over weight for her age).  He almost encourages it which disgusts me even more. 

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Submitted by Thisisnotus on Tue, 12/31/2019 - 5:21am

Yes!!! When I was growing up we weren’t allowed to order anything we wanted out to eat.....SDs order anything.....problem I have is we will go to say Outback and they will order 3 separate things costing double what I ordered.....but then take 2 bites and are done.

anothrr reason I stopped going out to eat with them.

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Tue, 12/31/2019 - 12:23pm

When I was growing up fast food was a treat...and it was never what I chose or how I specially ordered it plain or no this or that.  It was hey I stopped on my way home and brought you this sub from Arby's they were on sale 2 for $5 so this is what you get....and I was always thankful and happy with it!

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Submitted by Coldcounrtyak on Mon, 12/30/2019 - 4:23pm

I'm a sm of 13 yrs to my extreamly spoiled ss 15. He's a good kid but the problem is his BD. I have two grown daughters who live in a different state, and my youngest daughter just had my first grand child this yr.

The BD argues constantly with me about boundries for my SS, it's now created nothing but resentment for me. His son comes first and he treats him like a baby,anything he wants he gets. I'm to the point of packing my shit and moving to be with my children and grandchild. My husband and I are 9 yrs different in age(me being older).

I feel I raised my girls with him and went along with his boundries and expectations ,to now feeling as though I have no say or no place to set boundries with my SS.

Every other week I feel like an outsider, I just retreat and distance myself from the two of them,because seeing my husband cater to my SS every whim just pisses me off!

I'm lost in what to do,I had a back injury in 2012 that ended in surgery in 2017,I'm unable to work in my profession due to this injury and I'm so limited on what I can and cant do. This also creates alot of issues because I back away from most housework,cooking etc..the week my SS is here. I figured if I cant have a say in anything than every other week they can run the house!. Am I wrong?

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Submitted by Coldcounrtyak on Mon, 12/30/2019 - 4:32pm

I  watch my husband cater to my SS every little want and honestly I've lost alot of respect, attraction, and desire to work 9n our marriage .

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Submitted by shamds on Mon, 12/30/2019 - 7:41pm

ask me to make special meals that i cooked that ss liked such as focaccia bread. I told hubby i was busy being pregnant and with kids and since ss reminds hubby continually that i am a stranger and he is incapable of any ounce of affection to my 2 kids (his half siblings) then i was incapable of wasting my time cooking special dishes to make him feel special when he isn’t.

never again did hubby make those kinds of demands and this was well over 2.5-3 yrs ago!!

skids think they’re special too when hcgubm makes them special and guilty disney dad syndrome create a superforce to remind skids yes they are special when in reality they are normal 

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Submitted by Chmmy on Tue, 12/31/2019 - 7:03am

McDonald's is just an example. Going out to dinner is a whole different story. We have 4 sskids. Everyone  wants  a different appetizer as well as their meal and of course a drink. Not only is that financially irresponsible but what a bunch of unhealthy & overweight children he has. I gained weight going out with them because i find myself munching on the apps. I never ordered apps or dessert or drinks out to dinner. The dinner was my treat. I dont need a coke to add $2 per person + 500, 600 or more calories with all the refills these kids get.

I stopped going out with them other than special occasions like grandmas bday. I dont even go for the skids bdays. I lost a lot of the weight i gained...not that i blame them for my weight gain. I do like to eat!!!