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Submitted by MeanOleMe on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 12:17pm

I don't know why I even try to talk to DH about SD16. I really don't. It ends one of three ways... him telling me what I want to hear just so I'll shut up, but he doesn't follow through... in a huge argument... or him just walking away.

This time, he decide to just walk away, and he slept on the couch last night. Everything is just fine today though. Like nothing even happened. It's like he thinks if we just don't talk about it, there is no issue. He (again) allowed SD16 to stay at her BF's house for the weekend, well not her BF's house... his cousin's house. This little cousin that she is "staying" with is 9... boy honey... I have some land over seas to sell ya..

Really, you think your 16 year old daughter is staying with her BF's nine year old cousin? Are you kidding me? Not to mention this boy lives about 35 minutes away and DH drives to his house about 4 times a week. She was with him Thursday night, and now all weekend. Last week she was with him Wednesday, Thursday, and Sunday and the entire weekend before that as well. (Ohh wait.. she stayed at the "cousins" house)

I think this is WAY to much. Not to mention, how about a J-O-B? She doesn't have one, doesn't have a license, or a car, and is not in any extracurricular activities. Well, unless screwing counts! We can't afford any extras for us or our other two kids, but we can afford to drive princess around all week so she can get laid!

ERRR! I am just soo fed up!

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Submitted by KeepTrying on Sat, 10/03/2009 - 6:18pm

I'm not familiar with your background, but I'm shocked that he is ok with this...my SD is almost 16. She may be able to snow him about money and clothes or homework BS but she's not even allowed to have a boy in her room with the door shut when we are in the house, much less let her spend the night with a boy. Hope you have room for a nursery for her kid.

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Submitted by rainman on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 9:43am

Alright - when my SD was 16 - she was not allowed to spend the night at her boyfriends house - however - the boyfriends parents eventually communicated with us and SD ended up spending the night in the Room with Boyfriends little sister and Boyfriend had to endure Dad next to him all night... Did it all really happen that way - we don't know... But we made sure SD was on Birth control (and NOT the pill due to possible irresponsibility from her side - we choose the Nuva ring). I also told her that she will not bring a baby home - that would be the time she could move back to her BM... I also printed out homes for minors with infants and handed them to her. I didn't ask for DH to back me up - I told him afterward what I did and he had to live with it...

Good luck to you!

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Submitted by Sherland John on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 10:07am

DH sounds like an emotional weakling that is trying to get around his parental responsibilities by being SD16's best friend.Do you two have any kids togerher? I hope not,because this "man" is demonstrating a clear lack of commitment to parenting.Draw your line in the sand NOW!sit them both down and let them know she aint my kid (sounds cold,but these kids have no problem saying it to us with pleasure)and if she gets pregnant you're determined not to make it your problem.After that drop the issue and do not mention it again.

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Submitted by Pantera on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 2:55pm

What is with parents letting teenagers spend the night at so's houses? I was not allowed to do that. As a matter of fact, my husband was not allowed to stay the night at my parent's house ever, lol (when I met him I lived with my parents, I had just moved home at 24 after a bad breakup). Your DH will get the picture when princess comes home pregnant. I had a boyfriend when I was 15 and we moved 30 minutes away and my parents refused to drive me there, so we had to break up, boohoo, lol. I can't believe he is feeding into this crap.