This comes out of SD14's mouth a LOT! I use to tell her "You and SD17 are two different people", but truth be told, it's NOT fair.

When I decided to disengage, I only disengaged from SD17. For some reason, DH will talk to me and take my advice and allow me to help raise SD14, but not SD17. SD14 knows this, and is fine with it because she knows the benefits of me being involved. However, it really isn't fair.

Anyway, once again, SD17 was allowed to spend the night at her boyfriends "cousin's" house. Even after BF let something slip the other night, that to me was proof that is NOT happening, and even pointed it out to DH.

So this morning SD14 says to ME, "So does this mean when I turn 16, that I am allowed to stay the night at my BF's?" My response "Not if I have anything to do with it." She says "That's not fair, then why do you guys let SD17." (Not that SD14 is thinking about staying at her BF's, but she wants to know why, and truth be told, at her age I would have been all over this long before she caught on, because NOTHING is fair) I said, "I don't let your sister, your mom and dad are the ones that fall for that crap, not me. You know I could step out of it, but then you know what that means." She agreed, but kept up the it's not fair, and it's NOT, but I want better for her. I look like the bad guy, because DH and BM let SD17 do it, but "I" won't allow SD14 to do. Now thankfully SD14 does understand all of this, so she doesn't see me as the bad guy, she sees them as the dummies, but why do I have to be put that situation?? Why can't DH stand up and have some balls and tell SD17 NO!!! I swear he thinks if he doesn't know or pretends not to know, he isn't at fault.

Can I add that I told him on numerous occasions, and even in rage, not so nicely once or twice, that if SD17 gets pregnant, I think for one second he could have prevented it, I am done, and will leave him on the spot. I kid you not, that SD17 thinks she is pregnant EVERY month. Every, single one. As far as I can see, he doesn't care if I "leave" which is worse then if SD17 (for me not her) gets pregnant. Knowing that I will leave him, he still allows this shit to go on.