okay....So my 17yrSD has come to live with us after us for her last two years of high school. Needless to say her BM has tried to be her friend for five years since me and my husband have been married in order to turn her against her dad and me, all the nasty comments are coming out now. She has fallen for this 18yrBF who has her mind completely gone. oh but first let me tell that her BM was the one who intriduced her to him two years ago since she was dating the young boys cousin who was 25 and by the way we are all in our late 30's. Subsequently we have found out that he has two kids already one of which he had while dating her. At 16 she decided to runaway from her BM house to go live with him in NYC. which is why she is living with us 1,000s of miles away from her BM and him. She has been here for about 2 months now and it has been drama from day one. We never approved of the relationship from the day we found out about it 2 yrs ago. So when she got here we laid down the law. He was not to call any phones at all they talk using my space. Every rule that has been put in place she has ignored. she lies constantly even when the evidence is in her face she tries to play us like we are yr old ignorant children. The worse part is my husband being guilt ridden caves into her childish babytalking and ties to make me the bad guy. I typed up a set of rules and restrictions and consequences prior to getting home told him to read over them before she gets there....what does he do when we sit her down he say your SM typed these up let me read them I havent read them yet...how weak. Now she is attempting divide and conquer strategy. having conversations only with him trying the avoiding me factor in my own home. I do not have any children he still has two others with their BM 13 and 7 yrs old. Everytime I try to talk to him to get us on the same page he tries to avoid the conversation or says I'm nagging. Okay so now I'm getting frustrated more with him because he won't confront the ordeal head on and stand up. She tries to act like a baby when she knows she has been caught up in something, she wouldnt dare be disrespectful to me because she know I am not a weak person who will allow it so she does the I'm going to only talk to you if you talk to me thing. That will be confronted very shortly I will not have her living here spending my money and treating me like I'm just a convenient provider. Anyone with some advice.