Should I even do anything?
Bm and the 3 kids live with her mother in a 2 bedroom house. They've lived there since 2006. The 3 kids (2boys 1 girl) share a room the grandma has a room and bm sleeps on the couch. About a month ago bm's sister and brother inlaw and their 4 kids moved in also, the parents sleep on a air mattress in the breezeway and the 4 kids (2girls 2boys) Share an air mattress. I can't imagine anyway I've thought about calling child protective services although I'm pretty sure it will just be the sister who gets in trouble not bm. Because of the sister living there bm has been letting the sister treat ss12 different ex: ground him for a month from everything except a blanket and clothes for play wrestling with his cousin. Should I just stay out of it? Bf and I have talked about it and his mom has always said someone needs to call but she won't do it and I don't think bf will because he knows it wont affect bm. These people are planning on staying there until school is out thats 9 more months of this and his younger 2 kids are acting differently and the oldest is not being treated fairly. I just don't know what to do, if anything.
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Personally, I would call someone. But that's just me...if my sd11's bm was putting her in that sort of position you bet your buttons I'd be calling social services ASAP. But your judgement on this issue depends on exactly how bad the situation truly is...if your children were in that position by the other parent would you want it to stop? If so, then you should make the call. Even if nothing comes from it, at least bm will know she is being watched and it may cause her to fix the situation. You can also report anonymously I believe.
If it is bad enough to change the behavior of the children for the worse then something should be done in my opinion.
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i would call
i would so call! theres no need for ppl to be packed like sardines a little house like that!!! if you dont then noone will. by the way you can call anonymously!
"parents who are afraid to put thier foot down usually have children who step on their toes" ~chinese proverb~
*UPDATE*
Thank you for your encouragements. It gave me the push to call dcfs, They said it does not meet their criteria I was and am still shocked. She told me to call the "town hall" with my concerns. At least I tried even if nothing came of it yet. I just can't believe they don't care if 4 kids are sharing a bed, It just makes me sick. Thank you all again for responding I really appreciate it. *Life is full of hard things its not always fair but we do have a choice to make things better instead of worse*
I am glad you called
I am glad you called someone. Make sure they take care of this, have you thought about going for custody?
You should definitely call CPS
There are laws about children of different sexes and even ages sharing bedrooms and if I were you I would express concern about the treatment of the eldest and explain the situation. And you can do it anonymously as the others have stated before me.
"One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others." ~Moliere
Not important enough for dcfs
Bf had talked to his lawyer about it a couple weeks ago and he said there aren't any laws against it and to wait until after mediation (sept. 9) to call dcfs. I wasn't waiting but obviously it doesn't matter. Bf called dcfs himself last spring because bm would only bath the kids once a week if at all and the house smelled etc.etc. and they found nothing wrong. She's doing just enough to not be reported. We have talked about going for custody but were advised we didn't have a strong enough case, plus the 12 year old "can't leave his mom" his words, he thinks he's responsible for her. Its sick and I'm just hoping he realizes soon that his mom is a grown up and SHE'S responsible for him not the other way around. In the meantime we just have to sit back and wait for her to slip up.
I hope he realizes this and
I hope he realizes this and does not end up like my friends sister. Living with her mom still, taking care of her, when the daughter is nearly 40 yrs....
I didn't think about it being a different state, sorry
I live in KY and we do have laws like that here. Sorry.
"One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others." ~Moliere