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I am tired of trying to figure bm out

shellbell's picture

Bm and I don't talk, the few times we have it was not pretty. You never know what she's going to do, she acts normal sometimes and at others she's a complete idiot. At girlscout and boyscout outings she gives me dirty looks, I never noticed but I don't look at her ugly ass. She tried telling me off in public at a cubscout dinner, made a fool out of herself too because I don't let anyone talk to me like that especially when my dd was sitting right next to me. I'll get to the point. dh and I just got married almost 4 weeks ago at a ballgame 2 weeks ago she tells dh congratulations okay whatever. This last monday at ss10's ballgame she actually talked to me and again last night we talked a little, I'm thinking did hell freeze over or somethig? dh and I have been together 5 years and she just now is trying to act civil with me. I am sooooo afraid of letting my guard down with her she acts nutso half the time. Am I just overreacting or should I keep watching my back? I would love for things to be civil with her, I don't want to be her friend but I would love to not have so much stress reguarding her and her nonsense.

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CaliStepMomma's picture

I got some text messages from BM last week telling how much she appreciates that I take such good care of her kids and how we should really be more civil to each other. Did that stop her from showing up at school and trying to take the kids on our week because my husband was going to be out of town and she changed her mind about first right of refusal? Not at all. Were we right not to let our guard down. Absolutely.

You said it yourself, sometimes she's normal, sometimes she's psycho. My guess is that even when she is 'normal,' she is actually psycho. Psycho that hard wired can't be undone.

Also, BM, commonly thought to stand for Bio Mom, is actually an abbreviation of the scientific name Bitchificus Manipulativenis, so called for their uncanny ability to be manipulative bitches. What you are witnessing is simply the BMs natural behavior. Sorry to disappoint, but this is not a rare occurrence. If your BM begins actually giving a shit, get a video camera and send it in to that new nature show that Oprah narrates, because if that happens, you've got something real special. Wink

Corazon's picture

I've been dealing with the bio mom for 5 years now. She was always back and forth with me. She was so fake, but then she would turn around and accuse me of being rude to her, and treating her son bad. When in fact it is her being rude to me and her and her son making up stories about me. I will forever be a terrible step mother even though I take care of her son by myself most nights because my husband works nights. I keep him safe, feed him, read to him, give him hugs and kisses and always tell him I love him. She thinks she can turn my husband against me. My husband sees the truth. We have totally and completely given up on her. She's a miserable person, loves drama, and can see no other perspective but her own. To this day she doesn't even care that she could have put my daughter's life at risk when she was only two months old by sending SS over with flu like sypmtoms without telling us when her own husband had broncitis and her 1 1/2 year old son had neumonia from the same virus. Imagine what that virus would have done to a newborn! She did not care when I told her my daughter's pediatrition told me it was best to keep then apart. Instead she got mad about it and made us keep him. How could a person with a heart do that? That's pure evil. I will never forget that. She even talks shit about me with complete lies to my husband's parents and I'm starting to wonder if they believe her because it seems they favor ss son over their granddaughter . I hate the bitch with a passion. Never let your guard down from these evil bitches.