but see my post "DH still loves BM?"

"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.

but there was a poster here, cant remember her name now, that suspected that he was messin with the BM. A lot of people here told her she was obsessed with it, but she turned out to be right.

I am a BIG believer in following your gut instinct. If you believe this may be happening to you, follow your gut and check it out.

I feel pretty confident that DH wouldn't go within 1000 yds of BM, even if he had to. }:)

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The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. ~Edward, Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957

to just read for pleasure, pick up a copy of The Second Wives Club...i forget the author but it was really good. One of the women had to deal with the fear of her DH cheating with BM...The book is great but infuriating all at the same time. Don't read it then try to interact with your DH, take a breather from the book THEN go interact with DH...

The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. ~Edward, Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957

I know she has asked DH to come back several times though..

No won't happen to me. BM and my H HATE each other--and do everything they can to aviod one another.

Yes, and that's how I ended up engaged to a man with kids. There were no kids before the cheating incident. I had a few signs along the way, but mostly my gut kept saying something wasn't right. For instance, why would she be texting you to tell you she's pregnant by someone not her husband? Or, why is she texting you now to tell you she's having twins? Or, why are you getting sick all the time now and you never get sick? Wait... what's that, oh, right. You have three month old twins and just got the paternity test and you're nervous about telling me. Got it. Trust your gut.

To every thing there is a season.

BM is still MADLY hung up on my hubby but hubby ain't having it. He shoots her down at every turn. All I can tell you is that if hubby seems to be letting himself get put in vicarious situations I would worry.

For example: On Mother's Day four years ago BM came over when I wasn't home (before we were married) and tried the whole "let's do it for old times sake" thing. She was feeling all sentimental with it being Mother's Day and she thought he had bought her the presents the girls got her. She was too freaking stupid to realize that I had brought the girls shopping and hubs wouldn't of gotten her anything. Dee Dee Dee.

Needless to say she got shot straight down and hubs then BF called me IMMEDIATLY and told me the story while he and his roomie lughed their asses off. He stopped allowing BM anywhere inside his apartment and now OUR house without me being present because of that stunt. If I'm not home her behind has to stay outside. That's how I know I don't have to worry. He isn't allowing to be put in that situation again. I was the bigger person and never mentioned it untill she started complaining that I wouldn't allow her and him to spend time alone with the girls....I was quick to tell her why at that point.

Having a baby does not make you a mother.

yes, and it sucks. there is so much more i want to say about that, but have no idea how to.