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Getting a break this weekend.....no skid while DH's family is in town!!

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 07/17/2009 - 1:09pm

Step-demon left a VM on DH's phone yesterday while he was at work. "Dad.....yeah, it's Step-demon....ummmm...yeah...I sent you an email explaining why I'm not coming over this weekend. Thanks. Ummmmm bye."

This is the result of a conversation DH had with Uber-Skank after mediation the other day. Uber apparently believes (now that she's getting custody) she's no longer responsible for the CS arrearages and medical expenses she still owes DH after two years. DH explained the CS Enforcement Division and the County DA don't see it that way. She got really pissy with him and said that's not fair, I need the money, you have to pay ME back! DH explained she can either credit him on CS until she's at a zero balance OR have him pay CS and she'll continue to have her (now) unemployment garnished to pay off the balance. She went balistic and accused him of not wanting to pay CS! :?

So DH said he was surprised it took so long to get the call/email from step-demon. He expected it because Uber was mad at him about the money end of things and he knew there would be major PAS and step-demon would bail on the weekend. He said she started complaining about BabyDaddy#3, that since he left her and filed for their second divorce (yup, not a mistake..they remarried and it didn't last a year). Uber said BabyDaddy#3 hasn't paid any support in over a year and she KNOWS he's getting paid under the table. DH told her he's sorry BabyDaddy#3 is being a scumbag and not taking care of his kid, but that has nothing to do with their situation. Uber then stomped off and screamed at him (in public) I HOPE YOU CAN SLEEP AT NIGHT!!!

DH falls asleep the minute the light is out! Biggrin

He's not even looking at the email until after his family leaves next week, because he's afraid it's going to tick him off. He'll print it and save it for the hearing at the end of the month. Just in case Uber accuses him of not wanting to see his kid.

I'm personally relieved step-demon isn't going to be here this weekend. I find myself getting anxious about her visits, especially when we have family in town, because we don't know if she's going to be decent or behave like a huge stinking turd. So DH's BIL, his new wife and nephew can enjoy a drama free visit.

“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 07/17/2009 - 2:32pm

Uber....entitled??? No way! :evil:

I kept typing SD13 and in my mind referred to her as a little demon and "click" went the lightbulb. SD = Step demon!

If Droppy was older he'd be a great match for step-demon!

DH is waiting for the day she tells him that he has to buy her new clothes for school. He's going to whip out the letter she wrote when she ran away stating - AHEM -

"Your 15% paycut is CRAP! If you can't take me shopping in the stores I want to shop in, then I'm going to live with my MOM! My real family. She can afford to take me where I want to go!!!

He wishes he could say....Who's your Daddy now?? Blum 3

“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine

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Submitted by secondwife20 on Fri, 07/17/2009 - 2:44pm

Because da da gives her whateevvveeerrrr she wants. Biggrin Cause she's a princess. And she rules the world.

I'll be surprised if she starts staying with BM on her weekends. Though, BM might keep Blabb as a hostage so that she can get what she wants from DH.

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 07/17/2009 - 4:14pm

Step-demon used to be a princess. DH caught on to how she was treating me and finally (finally, finally) started dealing with it, after that things changed. He he loves her, she's his daughter but she was not going to get away with treating me like that any more. Because in a 4.5 years she'll be 18 and out of the house.......and he's stuck with me the rest of his life. Blum 3

DH's concern about the "school clothes" is that he feels he's screwed either way. If he says no he looks like a d**k and if he says yes...he's caving.

I suggested he take control of the situation. If (big if) she's asks him to buy her clothes, he could tell her:

"Step-demon, we're on a budget and I wasn't expecting to buy you clothes this year now that you're living with Uber again. But I can afford to take you to the Goodwill Boutique (or one of the nicer second hand stores) and let you spend X amount. You will get more bang for your buck and the nicer clothes."

See, you're in control. You are offering to give her something she wants, but on your terms. You're running the show, not a 13 y/o kid who feels she's entitled to shop at Nordstrom's and Macy's for all of her clothes. You're not caving or being a d**k.

DH even went onto say if she turns him down about the shopping trip and just asks for money (I'll have mom take me!), he'll tell her NO. He can take her shopping or she doesn't get anything from him!

:jawdrop:

“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine