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BM text to DH- How to get him to understand

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 10/10/2016 - 7:43am

BM sent DH a text on Friday. She is blocked but I guess after 3 months the numbers fall off and you have to add them back on.

So here is the text verbatim:

U no good piece of dog shit. YSD txt in August and u still have nor responded to her. What a father. No good piece of shit. Have not changes at all. Wish u dead.

Happy dance- one less skid in the state!

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 09/28/2016 - 8:34am

Looks like OSD packed up her apartment (that she broke her lease on/got evicted) and her, her DH and the 2 kiddos have moved out of state!!!!!!

Woot woot! I have a little more pep in my step now! She's a good 6 hours away.

For most of mine and DH's relationship she and her DH lived 6 hours away in another state and things weren't so bad. As soon as she moved back to our state (about 15 months ago) it was nothing but DRAMA with her. More drama with BM, more drama with the other girl skids.

What does being disengaged mean to you?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 09/21/2016 - 11:06am

What does being disengaged mean to you?

I know there is no clear one answer. Each family has a different dynamic and circumstances.

If you are disengaged what are the hardest parts and what are the easiest parts?

What made you decide to disengage?

Have you considered disengagement and never went through with it? Why?

Are the skids disengaged from you?

How does your SO feel about your disengagement? Is he aware of it?

ETA: Is it okay to reengage from time to time and if so, when?

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Including SS but excluding OSD for a party

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 09/19/2016 - 7:55am

DH and I had a party/cookout over the weekend. I planned it and put a lot of effort into it. We did Drinking Games Relay Race. There were teams and I had different stations set up and the teams had to race to each station and do a silly game or drink a beer and then move on to the next. It was hilarious. Overall the party was success and lots of fun.

I had invited SS. He's been to our cookouts before. He's always very helpful and helps me with clean up, etc. He knows a lot of DH's friends that come. He's invited more as a guest as opposed to being DH's son.

Tossing pics of BM

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 09/19/2016 - 7:38am

The BM recently passed away. Drug related. The kids (2 girls, early adults) were raised by their dad because of their mom's addiction. Parents have been divorced for a long time.

Dad is remarried and has been for a few years. (Not sure how long they were together before that). BM has been remarried for about a year. Both have other kids besides the 2 girls.

How did you get yourself out of debt or how have you maintained financial security?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 09/08/2016 - 8:37am

Because I didn't want to highjack monkeyskids blog....

First this blog is for no judgement so if you're going to be all high and mighty "Oh I've never been in debt, I'm way too smart for that, blah blah, blah" then this isn't the blog for you.

I'd love to hear what others have done to be financially secure or if you were in debt at one time, how did you get yourself out of it? What is important to you in terms of financially security? If you are a secret millionaire, what are your tips for that?

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