I made an important decision last night, after many sleepless hours I decided that I was going to stop all communication with BM. I'm doing this to save my own sanity and re-establish my boundaries. Boundaries which BM in the past has not understood or chooses to ignore. I am re-gaining control of my life, my life with FDH.

I've been good to BM in many many ways. Helping with pick-ups and drop offs, working with her on her schedule, including changing my work schedule to make it all work. However, regardless of what I have done or will do BM always managed to screw it up and I would ultimately get blamed and fustrated. BM would not honor her end of the agreement. Inturn putting me and FDH in the "bad guy" position. When in reality it is BM who is the "bad guy".

In the past several days I have seen BM true colors. BM has really stepped way-over the line for me. The messages these two beautiful little girls have left are coached and riddled with adult influence. So much so, without even listening to one FDH knew just from the words who coached or influenced the child to say what she said. I am NOT and I mean NOT interested in being a party to BM and biogang games. These are small children for Christ sake!!!

With that being my final straw I texted BM this morning...

Zen: Any further contact and communication via text and phone by you or any member of your family with me will be considered harassment and shall be treated as such from the date and time of this text. Please stop contacting me.

BM: Agreed! I will remove your number from SD11 phone as well!

Zen: It does not include the kids!!! [I really wanted to say: you stupid dumb f'ing bitch, it's meant for the harassing adults NOT the innocent children! You f'g cunt!] but I refrained.

BM: i just dont know where they stand! They love you guys! This really is sad!

Zen: Stop texting me! I only texted you back to insure you understood the kids were not included.

BM: I said i agree! i understand!

I wanted to reply so badly with a phone call that would have given her a un-zen like response, but again I refrained.

"I just don't know where they stand! They love you guys! This is really sad!!"
Let's break it down...
"I just don't know where they stand" - well exactly where you put them in the middle with your stupid games and manipulation. With your parental alienation and entire family interfering you have harmed them beyond any sane persons comprehension!

"they love you guys!" - yes we know that, but that doesn't seem to be enough for you to stop yourself from manipulating them into thinking we don't want to see them! When you were the one preventing visitation from happening! Next time you should think of how much they love us and maybe that will remind you to act like a sane person rather than what you really are which is a controlling manipulating narcissit!!!

"this is really sad!" - yeah, well deal with it. You made your bed now lay in it!!! You had it all you dumb f'ing cunt!!! You had me a person who was willing to whatever it took to make everyone happy! NO MORE! I'm making my fdh happy and that's it (his girls too when we have them no more extra mile bs). You had an xh that was also willing and open to doing whatever it took! NO MORE! You have burnt his ass more than once and he is DONE!!! You will hear from him via his atty ONLY!

Yes its very very sad that you have to be who you are!! You have no shame, no honor and not a good kind bone in your body and the blood in your veins is cold! As far as I'm concerned you don't exist in my life anymore!

So, this is the first morning in over a week for sure possibly more that I can honestly say I feel good. FDH and I met with an atty and we will be pursuing BM for contempt, modification of CS, change in parenting schedule, and slapping her family with harassment charges next time the contact FDH. I'm gather all the info now and we will be moving forward not in a circle room that BM built for two!!!