I had an appointment with my therapist yesterday who said that I've been making huge progress in the 6 months that DH has been gone. I found out the other day that BM has joined one of these self improvement seminar pyramid scheme/cult type of deals and the old me would have begun documenting/researching out of fear that BM would take off with SD and DH would be heartbroken. Now, I mention it, but just leave it at that. It's DH's problem and I'm here to support him, but I'm not going to get stressed out or get involved BM's insanity. SD is pretty much screwed anyway, I've done enough to feel like I tried to help the child, but I'm not going to be a martyr and spend my life being miserable on the slim chance that after spending tens of thousands of dollars in court to get her into therapy that there MIGHT be hope for her.

I'm thinking of planning a trip for just DH and I. No SD, no DD. That way we avoid the whole favoritism argument or the "I'm sorry SD isn't as PERFECT as DD" comments that would come before. New year, fresh start on our marriage. Here's hoping I can keep it up!