With so much happening in SD17's world right now, my husband and BM have been talking quite a bit. There are a lot details and lies to figure out, but at least they are on the same page and SD is not getting away with her manipulations.
When all of this started, SD's actions brought back a lot of hurtful memories from the past. We are all working through our own pain and coming to terms with what was said too and about each of us. BM reached out to me and is looking for support. I feel for her, even though I know that she brought a lot of this on herself.
Last night she was upset and called my husband to let him know about the fight she and SD had. He was trying to calm her down and called her by her first and middle names. It was what he used to call her when they were married. Now he calls her 'skank' or her first name only. When he called her that, it brought back a whole lot of painful memories of beginning of our relationship, when she controlled everything and used SD as a pawn to manipulate him. It just feels like all the scabs that healed over are being torn off - with SD, with BM...when it rains, it pours, right?!?! He doesn't understand why it struck a nerve and automatically jumped to thinking I was worried that something bigger was happening between them. He thinks I am mad at him, but I am not. I think I am sad about all the damage that people do to each other. The pain that we cause each other, usually with a selfish motive, lasts so long. Even when you think you have moved on from it, sometimes it sneaks back in.