So DH gets a phone call Sunday AM from Dippy. We were still in bed, but he went downstairs anyway (she only calls his cell) and returned her call. He ended up leaving a message on her VM. Later in the day, she calls him back and accuses him of putting a warrant out on her (see previous blog). She is so dumb when it comes to CS and how it is enforced. The warrant is for her not showing for a contempt hearing. The contempt hearing was ordered by the domestic relations office because she failed to turn in paperwork that they requested. DH did not ask or order anything here, it was all done by domestic relations office. Of course, when she didn't show, the judge issued a bench warrant, which is strictly enforced here (the sheriff's office will actually go pick her up and put her in jail, where she will wait until the warrant issuing judge can see her in his court room to set bail.

Anyway, she thinks DH set all this up, and I knew he was going to be blamed, and when he told her that he did not, and all he knew was that she didn't show up for a hearing so the judge issued a warrant, she did actually calm down (maybe she actually believed him.) He told her that we receive copies from the Dom. Rel. Office on everything that happens, and that's how he knew. All of this, I expected to happen.

What I didn't expect (although I should know better), was for her to call SS13 (who was at her parents' house for her EOWE) and ask him what he knew about it. WHAT!!! Why are you telling your son that the child support has caused her to possibly go to jail! Talk about GUILT!! This kid is constantly looking for her affection, and at points will do just about anything to get it (the psychologist says he has abandonment syndrome), and then she goes and tells him that she's going to go to jail because of the support she pays for HIM! HOW AWFUL! Then of course when he didn't know about it, she fed him some story that she concocted in her head about how DH must have ordered it. So of course, here I am listening to this while, BM is again on the phone with DH. I stormed up to the bedroom (where DH is talking to Dippy obviously trying to shield his son from this information) and tell him, "That B*tch told SS about all this, and lied to him about how it happened!!" So I come back downstairs and tell SS, "Seeing as you already know about it, you may as well know the facts." and I told him the correct order in which things happened. We don't need him knowing about this in general, but at the very least, we don't want him thinking his Dad caused it.
I think he understands, but that's not going to stop him from feeling guilty, and I told him that he doesn't need to get involved in these things, he's a kid and shouldn't have to worry about these adult matters. I also told him to go ahead and tell his mother that he doesn't want to know these things if she ever tries to drag him into it again. He probably won't, due to just plain curiosity, but at least he knows that he shouldn't worry about it.

And to top it off, do you think DH said anything to BM about dragging SS into this, NOPE!! Just pisses me off.