So BM told DH that she was moving to Poland in November to be with her new BF of 3 months. This past week, she told SS that she was moving to Poland in 4 years when SS is "grown up". I really think that she likes to build up SS just to let him down so he'll act out and punish us. I know that sounds self centered, but at this point, that's the only reason left. She has done this crap so many times its infuriating!!

I know that she's lying to SS because she has a BD with her other ExH that is 4 years younger than SS. If she was going to wait for SS to be 18, why wouldn't she wait for BD? It's just bullshit. (Just in case you didn't notice, this woman is a real winner, has to children and doesn't have custody of either). I always struggle in these situations with what I should do. Should I call out BM to SS? I did already tell him that BM told DH something different, but that's all. Our counselor that we had a while back told us that we should disarm any false statements BM makes to SS in order to help him get rid of the "fantasy" of his mother. But I'm not sure that he has that fantasy view of his mother anymore. I think he sees that she's lying and manipulative, but he still believes what she says to him.

ARGHHH!