January 29th midnight BM drops both OSD and YSD at our doorstep and takes off. They both proceeded to assault mom's boyfriend and not only did he kick them out he got OOP against them. Kudos to BMs boyfriend!

OSD left after 2 days to begin her house hopping adventure where everyone learned first hand that OSD is not the victim she portrays herself to be.

YSD began to act out verbally attacking me and SO for even looking in her direction. So I stopped speaking to her completely. So then she moved on to sending a barrage of texts things like:

" You ruined mine and OSDs life. You make us want to die. You are the reason we no longer call SO dad. I hope your fingers get eaten off by a pack of rats and you get smacked with a cat's penis, you stupid bitch" 

So I blocked her. So then she moved on to standing outside my bedroom door repeating over and over "stupid bitch". Writing nasty messages in the white board which was taken down. Then on my dishes and doing obnoxious things like ripping up paper into tiny prices and hiding it in my clothes, shoes and so on. She even called the police on us and said to the officer " tell that woman over there she can't tell me what to do." Referring to the ongoing battle of her bedroom looking like the local garbage dump. Add into that she stopped showering and washing her clothes. 

I was at my wit's end. Everyone including SO has always treated YSD like a second class citizen next to OSD. I was the only one who ever showed her any attention and I am the one she turns on. Because she wants to go live with BM who has never even acted like she likes her and has never done anything for her ever. 

This behavior continued for 3 months. I gave SO a chance to get her in counseling and on medication. He of course did his normal procrastination and frustration when he didn't get immediate gratification from his efforts. But in the mean time I am living with the devil himself, so this is a priority if you want to keep your girlfriend. 

The only reprieve I had was when grandma would take YSD, but she could only handle her so much and would bring her back to get a break herself. At least grandma would take her phone and punish her for her behavior unlike SO who would just hide in his chair. 

Again the straw that broke the camel's back was YSD skipped 8 days if school in a row and when I said something to SO. His response was he was sick and tired of being told how he is a bad parent and I am always pointing out what his kids do wrong!!

Again my crazy came out and the house probably shook from the explosion. SO do you know what happens when a 13 year old with a zero average starts having excessive truancy? The school calls CPS and turns the parent in for educational neglect. That may not bother you because it doesn't effect you or your job. But guess who it does effect ME!!! I get named in that report as an adult living in the house. I will get locked out at work pending an investigation. ExH will jump on the chance to file for custody so he doesn't have to pay CS anymore and I will have to pay him. I will end up with thousands of dollars in legal fees all because you suck as a parent. 

As I pondered what to do because I can't keep allowing DS or myself to be placed in jeopardy, OSD returned. That's when the decision was easy. They had to move out. 

Since I am not a complete heartless a-hole J did make a referral for intensive services, I did get YSD back with her old counselor. They have all the support they will need.

I agreed to family counseling for now which is part of the services. But I am detached at this time. I don't know what the outcome will be from my own individual counseling and family counseling with them. 

Right now I am no longer in love with SO the way I once was the only thing holding me in his life is our friendship. 

It disgusts me even more that YSD remained consistently aweful until the day SO told her they were leaving. Suddenly she flips a switch and wants to be my best friend. Sorry, but not sorry this is a real consequence of your actions.

I have not been a jerk to her and have been polite and civil. But deep down inside myself I am hurt and angry.