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I Don't Want Christmas

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Submitted by whatthesebootsa... on Sun, 12/21/2014 - 9:04pm

I don't want to wrap the rest of these presents.

I just want to hide in a hole.

I don't want to drive a thousand miles and sleep in BM's house, and watch my SS open the presents his daddy bought for him before he died (and the one I bought for DS and labeled from daddy, because he never did pick out anything for him).

I want to tell these people who offer their "help" that thank you, but your hour on a Saturday morning is not enough for me to get anything done, since you'll want to sit and talk and I'll have to entertain you.

Preserving Memories - Ideas?

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Submitted by whatthesebootsa... on Thu, 12/18/2014 - 6:40am

So, since we'll be moving in a couple of months, I've started going through our house to try to consolidate and save the keepsakes, photos, and such that DH left behind. My idea is to make a box for each of the boys that they can have when they're older, and keep just a few things out for my SS to have now (his mom isn't really a sentimental person, but I know he is - I don't want to send too much because it might not be kept).

I'm creative and pretty handy, but I don't have time for scrapbooking right now - I just know it would never get done.

On Partnership, Love, and Honor - or, What's Not Good Enough

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Submitted by whatthesebootsa... on Thu, 12/04/2014 - 12:02am

So I've been thinking a lot on the important stuff when it comes to relationships, especially blended marriage. I've come to some conclusions and made some promises to myself. I think some of you might relate, and I'd like to hear your ideas. So, these are the thoughts I've had and commitments I'm making to hold dear for the rest of my life.

#1. This shit is complicated already. Your relationship should be your safe place. If you're for one minute afraid to be open and honest, you have a problem and you need to fix it.

Lessons Learned in Hindsight

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Submitted by whatthesebootsa... on Tue, 10/28/2014 - 12:57pm

Okay, people. If you're going to get divorced, then please, be sure to get ALL THE WAY DIVORCED.

Half the utilities and the homeowner's insurance are still in BM's name. This means they don't want to talk to me at all about things like keeping the lights on or finding out if the insurance pays off the mortgage upon death.

Thankfully, she's more than willing to help. I don't know where I'd be if she wasn't.

One Long Rolling Nightmare

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Submitted by whatthesebootsa... on Thu, 10/23/2014 - 12:54pm

I've been a member for a few years now but don't want this to get linked to my old blogs. Before anyone starts screaming CREW! send me a PM first.

DH died a few weeks ago. SS is with BM, so it just leaves me and DS4mo. Since then, all of my worst nightmares are coming true.

DH died while I was at work. He was taking care of SS and DS, and had just packed them both in the car to go to SS' dentist appointment when it happened. Thank god they never left the driveway.