I swear BM has a beacon that can sense tranquility and peace in our lives, because out of the pits of hell she rises every time. We are in the middle of a nasty CS/CO battle that BM thinks she controls and runs when we found out about the arrest of her live in BF for child abuse that happened months ago and DH was never informed by CPS. We were horrified to hear this from our lawyer. Brought a petition for custody to the judge only for it to be thrown back because "well he is in jail and she was the victim of the abuse so we will give her the benefit of the doubt". So we moved forward had our mediation and got the visitation squared away. She signed a paper basically saying if the BF is ever around the kids again we take custody and she has pay for all of us to go back to court and regain custody. Now we are faced with even more chaos. The youngest (5) has to have extensive dental work done. All of her front teeth have to be removed prematurely due to decay, and all of her molars either have to have fillings or root canals done. So basically 17 out of the 20 teeth she has right now have majore decay. Which is mind boggaling to me, because her excuse was "she fights me on brushing" but with that much decay are you even brushing your teeth? And the kid is 5, it is going to be a fight. Does not mean you just let her go without. Especially considering her diet consists of poptarts and juice for every single meal. Then, DH recieved a call from school because the oldest was being bullied and she ran outside blocked herself under a picknicktable so no one could get to her and said she wanted to kill herself. SHE IS 7, this innocent kid should not even have a concept of this. But she's repeating what she heard from her mother and the BF for the past 3 years. Any time they got into a fight someone was threatening this. Then within a day of this incident BM texted DH that she "thinks she is getting fired" while her lawyer tells DH he should pay $1,600/month in CS on top of the $700 he already pays for insurance, plus splitting any cost of medical, daycare, and whatnot. She also does not think she should have to provide her income to help dertermine the CS that he should just pay this based on DH income. She has intentionally missed work to lower her income (taking long vaccations, started a side business she calls her passion project and missed extensive amounts of time from her job for this), but without the missed time they make the same amount of money (she made $25 last year and DH makes $27). She tried claiming that it was because the kids were sick, but they weren't and her facebook posts prove it. She is trying to take substitute jobs and make herself underemployed to 1. Force DH to pay an exhorberant amount of child support so she can live off of this money 2. Follow her passion project without having to worry about money or a "primary job", because it is not lucrative. While I am in no way saying we shouldn't be paying CS, but taking almost all of DH paycheck for it? We have a kid together, how is it fair that our child has to try and survive on one persons income because she refuses to work? Especially considering she isn't even taking proper care of them at this point. We should pay her money so the kids can be neglected and abused? These poor kids are suffering and we can't do anything about it. Yet all she seems to care about is getting the biggest paycheck possible, and her own desires and needs. I am so frustrated and heartbroken I want to scream. I feel like our lives (the kids included) will forever be in termoil because of this narcassistic woman. I am just at a loss and I don't know what to do anymore. I love my husband but I have thought about leaving because the stress from this is ruining our mairage. I don't think I can keep living with this anger and frustration.