Letter that needs to be written
:? I would like to write a nice letter but to the point to my step-daughter that is 45 years old regarding her interfering and inviting herself to events that her father and I have planed. My husband is a young 86 and I am 61 we have three homes and travel and a wonderful life together. He is not able to say anything to his daughter and I would like to stop it before it gets out of hand. He has another daughter tells us that she has been doing this all her life with everyone and the family has put up with it for years
The letter will be written by me, with my husbands consent. I need advise on getting to the point in an understanding but firm way with not misunderstanding that she is loved but lets us live out lifes. Any advise if welcom.
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Thank you very much for
Thank you very much for addressing this issue. My husband is afraid to say anything to her, she is very controlling and a very troubled woman. She left her child and husband, dates on line and calls almost everyday to find out what we are doing. We canceled a visit to a family member last week when I found out that she had invited herself to the lunch. My husband has tried to say something and when he does, her reply is "Daddy" I Love you and am now sure how long you will be here and want to spend as much time with you as I can.
She calls almost everyday to
She calls almost everyday to ask how he is and to tell him how much she loves him and gets him to talk about out plans. This is a woman that left her husband and child and dates on-line and every controlling
No matter if she knows about
No matter if she knows about the event or not.
1). Try not to advertise the event to your SD.
2). When she invites herself or indicates she plans to come.... be sure both your DH and yourself state the following.
3). "Oh, dear, there must be a misunderstanding. We apologize, but this is a private event. We would love to have you come at another time."
Done.
Thank you for replying. My
Thank you for replying. My SD calls almost everyday to say I love you Daddy are you doing OK. She is very controling and keep pushing him to talk about what he is doing and if he doesn't answer she will keep asking, "Are you sure you are alright" until he tells her our plans.
This is a woman that left her 13 year old child and husband and goes on line to get dates.
My husband lives on his SS
My husband lives on his SS and a pension, which is a good monthly income since he do not retire until he was 70.
I still work and have all the assets which value to alot more then his income. We each pay are seperate bills, except for trips which my husband pays for. The children from his first wife all are set up in a trust. I will only get his SS when he dies. She left her son (14) and husband and dates from these on-line services. Yes, it is weird!
OH MY GOD!! This just gave me
OH MY GOD!! This just gave me chills; I won't be able to handle this if it lasts that long! I would hope our children would be out living their lives. I agree; you should not hide your plans; you need your alone time. Give her a set time to call; sounds ridiculous but.......