So....I avoid BM at all costs. She doesn't appreciate anything I do for HER children...maybe it's because I parent them better than she does...anyway...I have decided that every weekend we send them home I will send them home with something annoying and messy...here are my ideas so far...

1. Microphones (the girls are already naturally and severely LOUD).

2. Paint.

3. SAND.

4. Maybe a project involving water.

5. Noisemakers.

6. Teaching them horrible annoying songs.

Any other suggestions?

We are also possibly getting ourselves into another dilemma here...this weekend FFIL is getting a major surgery performed. He is not in good health so it's serious and the doctors said there is a possibility he could be in the hospital one to 4 days...we of course want to be there for him. She is going to have to keep the kids this weekend. I think this is a logical reason to keep the children...I just hope she thinks about him and not herself here. There is no custody order...and we've had these kids every weekend with the exception of when she has taken them camping and to the beach twice last summer. And once 2 years ago when I lost a family member...a child in the family who was my buddy and we were very close...and of course FH went with me to the services in a different state and she fought with him over it. Who does that? That was the final straw for me.