So after the "alleged" abuse the girls told us happened...They did ask to go home after 4 days...I don't think there was a real SLAP to the face or whatever happened...There wasn't a mark on them. I think BM just went a little over the top and scared them because she was so sick of their horrendous behavior...which she is 75% responsible for because she has let them get away with murder...act like little divas...and allowed them to talk back and be disrespectful while in her presence. They seem to be coming along well...We are currently working on a rule board...one for here and one for home. I think bird's discipline was just a big shocker and scared the crap out of them. And clearly she still has no idea how to handle the demons she's created. Luckily...I usually do.

So some things I need to vent about...

1. Not so DH's brother who just had a baby with his fiance...just left her. Her and their 8 week old baby...and has moved in here. He's an idiot. I want nothing to do with his douchebagness and I hope she takes him for everything he has...he is already paying CS for his two other children from his last fling. He would be the "BD" we'd bitch about...he is a perfect example of the asshole deadbeat dad and he makes me sick. FSIL and I keep in contact with his new baby momma and visit often. We understand her issues and have taken her side. We are in shock.

2. FSD9's First Holy Communion was last Sunday. I chose to sit out on this one...They did stay the night before so I got her all girlied up in her gorgeous white dress and of course I got her little sis dressed up too. They looked so adoreable. I chose to sit out on this due to the fact that the church was the same church DH and Bird got married in. I just couldn't do it...so his mother went in my place...go figure...and sat right next to bird. The funny thing is Bird took her new boyfriend. So she had Her ex Husband with whom she had our steps with(my DH)...her new baby with her to her previous boyfriend...and uhh...her new boyfriend...in a Catholic Church. Hilarious. I've been with FH for 5 friggin' years and didn't go...but her new man apparently is so important...he went? hahah! JOKE! Bird's sister made the comment to my Dh that she would not be surprised if the girls asked to live with us soon due to their mother's lack of parenting.

3. The girls were in the tub playing mermaid Friday night...I walk out of the bathroom and go into the bedroom to get their pj's out...I turn around and fsd9 is standing in the bedroom wrapped up in her towel...I say hey - it's okay you got out but did you wash your hair? She says yes...now...any other time I would supervise this or do it but because she is gaining her independance I let this go. So I say here are your pj's dry off and I will go wash your sister's hair and get her out...Now...I have this thing called a "hair basket" in the room...I have OCD and have my things in the bedroom organized like an insane woman. In the hair basket there are a ton of hair products, curling irons, brushes, a hair dryer, my CHI, hair clips, etc. I also have clip in hair extensions...I brushed them out and laid them on the bed. So...I wash her sister's hair...dry her off - brush her hair out, pj's...etc. Like 15 minutes goes by and I say to Dh, Hey, where is fsd9? He says I don't know? I'm like of course I am the only one that notices she is missing? I go to open the bedroom door and it's locked - so I yell at her once...twice...and third time to unlock the door NOW! I go in...her shorts are on but her shirt is only half way on...I ask what she is doing that the door is locked? She says, "getting dressed" in a sneaky tone...I say - well it doesn't take 15 minutes to put three articles of clothing on and I hand her the hair brush and out she walks...I could just tell something was up...there are my clip ins - weaved all through the basket in a HUGE mess...I am pissed but I calmly rebrush them and lay them flat in a drawer...I say nothing...The next morning...fsd7's hair is all soft and curly and clean...I look at fsd9 and I say WHAT is in your hair? WHY is it all greasy like that??? Her grandmother "the wildabeast" I call her says WTH IS THAT? I say I have NO idea...and starts interrogating her telling her obviously the 15 minutes she was in there she was messing with stuff she shouldn't have been! She says, No no no...and is flat out fibbing...Dh all of a sudden starts interrogating ME? Ohhhh HELL NOOOOOOOOOOOOO! I turned around went into the bedroom and that was it...about 30 minutes later in walks DH and fsd9 with a towel wrapped around her head - he rewashed it and was just looking at me and said, "sorry." I knew then he KNEW she put something in it...I then ask again...WHAT did you put in it? She lies again. and this continues...I then say - I was going to keep my mouth shut about this BUT I am not and your dad needs to hear it - so I tell him about the clip-ins...He says, WELL? Now we KNOW you were messing with stuff? She keeps lying...crocodile tears...I say look...we know you put something in it - I don't know if it was a hair product you used too much of BUT if you cannot keep your hands off of my things and you are going to be sneaky I will put EVERYTHING...perfumes and creams, makeups, hairproducts and everything else I own into a locked container and you will not beable to share anything. She starts bawling...and DH says, "Did you hear that? She will do this...and you will not even be allowed in this bedroom without supervision..." So he blowdrys her hair...It was STILL greasy and nasty - I ended up braiding back the sides to hide it and straightening the rest...I am stil furious and have no idea waht she used...the only thing I could think of is I use baby oil gel on my foot tattoos to brighten them and skin to make it extra soft...I am thinking maybe she used it then rubbed it on her head...I have NO idea. It is STILL driving me crazy. I'm just waiting for BM to call and accuse me of purposely putting something in it...It's almost kind of silly...but it just perturbs me that this child LIES so much!

I am so thankful for a break this weekend since DH has to work all weekend which means No children for me...wooooo!!!!!!!!!!