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I'm so mad right now!!

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Submitted by Tx mommy of 3 on Sat, 10/02/2010 - 10:14am

So dh and ss are on their way here for ss visit. Today was the day we planned on talking to ss, like I posted about yesterday. Normally dh picks up ss and comes right back home- a 4hr round trip. Last night he decides to stay in town with his mom (mil) and drove back this morning. Fine. Except dh took ss to the fair last night!!! What the heck? It's not tht I care he took him. If it were any other weekend, then fine. But this is the weekend we are hving this serious talk and what does dh do? Oh, let me reward this kid for his abusive behavior!!! Genius dh. Then he tells me, "I'm NOT rewarding him. I want to go to the fair so I'm taking him." really?! In what world does that logic make sense?! And this is the kid who dh has been mad at all week because ss never returned any of dh's texts or calls this week. So I told dh HE is starting this conversation today, which is what some of you suggested anyway. Yesterday he was the good guy. Today he'll be the bad guy. And we will do this together meaning sh has to confront ss in front of me and yes, I WILL make sure dh brings it up by putting him on the spot. Then I'll give my spill but there is no way I'm going to be the only bad guy here. I'm so mad right now.

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Submitted by smonster2 on Sat, 10/02/2010 - 10:51am

I'm so mad for you right now. What does DH think he's doing by rewarding SS for his bad behavior? I would probably be screaming the minute they walked in the door. I know this would not be in your best interest, but boy would I be flippin pissed.

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Submitted by Tx mommy of 3 on Sat, 10/02/2010 - 11:10am

Well we have no family here. But I had already made plans to be out and about this weekend- hair appt, shopping, etc. That doesn't bother dh though. I told him last night the rest of the weekend was mine and if ss is bored oh well. (bored because if I'm out then dh is stuck with ss, dd5, ds4 and dd7mths! He won't leave the house with he baby!) it is true tht ss is manipulating dh. I neverthought of it like that. Interesting. Dh already told me he'd take care of it on the way o take ss home tomorrow. I said nope.

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Submitted by Tx mommy of 3 on Sat, 10/02/2010 - 11:43am

Well dh really didn't think I was serious about this talk so now he's worried I guess. Dreading it more than me. He's givin me all these lines about 'kids being kids' and whatever. I asked him how he'd feel if some other non-related 13yo boy videoed the same thing- hitting ds 4 like that then how would he feel. So now he is prepping up for a talk. He knows it needs to be done but doesn't want to do it. They should be home soon...

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Submitted by zenjetset on Sat, 10/02/2010 - 12:06pm

I'm just as upset for you! I battle this SD11 beating on SD6 all the time. Today SD11 stomped in SD6 and I just let it go...sounds horrible doesn't it, but I have talked about the dangers, threatened to call the police, spoken with BM and DH and nothing happens. Are my hands tied?! Yes!!! In my opinion they are. I believe something serious needs to happen to SD6 at the hands of SD11 in order fir the bios to realize the seriousness of the situation. Until then, I busy myself around the house so I don't have to wittness it. It's very disturbing!!!