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Guessing the Will Blog Got Taken Down?

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Sat, 12/09/2017 - 4:07pm

It seems that perhaps the person who wrote the will blog took it down? Got run off the forum on a rail?

Just wanted to say, for the record, that I think wills are super-complicated and personal for blended families, but that I understand the excitement of being put first for once. When my DH said he thought we should have simple wills, leaving everything to the surviving spouse, I felt so comforted and taken care of. I'm imagining this is how the poster of that blog was feeling as well.

In his mind:

Long Time, No Blogs - Good Conversation w/DH

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Wed, 12/06/2017 - 7:03am

Not much to report here.

Life is going fairly well...just waiting for YSD to finally age out in May. CANNOT WAIT.

She is here this week. I had a long heart-to-heart with DH over Thanksgiving break where I was able to say a lot of things that bother me about being a stepmom and cause resentment. I brought up his switching visitations from EOWE to randomly-spaced weekends and weekday visits as a huge issue for me.

DH: "But I asked you before I did that. I asked for your input."

Happy Birthday To Me.

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Sat, 09/09/2017 - 5:15am

Well...I'm sitting here awake since 5 am having gotten very little sleep because I have a sick doggie on my hands. She's 15...and until a month ago she was in fantastic health. Now, everything seems to be going at once for her. I need to schedule a date but I can't seem to do it and DH doesn't want to. Of course, he's not the one who sits up with her at all hours, petting her, and listening to her raspy breathing.

SD Getting Needier and Needier in her Senior Year

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Thu, 08/24/2017 - 8:23pm

So, YSD has been kind of weird and clingy lately. Last week, after getting upset that DH and I went to a movie she was interested in without her, she dropped by the very next day after school with a hamster she'd bought for herself and proceeded to hang out for the rest of the afternoon, setting up the equipment, monopolizing the TV, and singing loudly along with the dumb musical she was watching...talking loudly at her dad...while I was trying to work...during our off week. It felt oddly territorial...since it was the very next day.

You Went Without Me???

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Sat, 08/19/2017 - 12:50pm

So, SS left for college this week.

OSD and YSD are still in town. DH needed a favor from OSD this morning and sent her a text. Curiously, he received no response. When he invites her over for dinner or some other goodie, of course, she responds right away and stays only as long as absolutely necessary. Lovely. Cannot wait for OSD and her BF to move away forever.

OT - Almost Settled Back Into A Routine. Thank the Lord.

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Tue, 08/15/2017 - 12:12pm

I am so, so, so ready for summer to be over. I feel like everything is up in the air and has been for weeks and it's all about to...land.

SS leaves for college Thursday morning. He wants to drive himself, but he's been spending lots of time here talking to DH and getting ready. I am glad and excited for him...glad for DH, too, that he gets to have some input and get this time with him. Glad SS is reaching out in this way. But I am also ready to have my home back!

What's the weirdest expectation you've ever heard from a non-stepparent?

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Sat, 08/12/2017 - 5:14pm

I think we're probably all familiar with the double-standards that come along with being a stepmom. You're supposed to "love them like your own" at all costs...but no one ever expects the kids to love you "like a parent" or even be respectful or civil to you as an adult in their lives. Everyone constantly reminds you that "it's a package deal" when you marry a man with kids, but no one ever tells the kids that you're now a "package deal" with their dad.

Trivia Night Has Begun...and DH Redeems Himself a Little Bit.

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Wed, 08/09/2017 - 5:48pm

Sorry to be a blog hog.

Our guests are arriving. I'll probably warm up and hang a little after my training is over at 7. Does anyone else have multiple teen skids? Do your skids still bicker with each other and nitpick incessantly? It drives me insane. They pick at each other worse than small children when they're all together. DH might describe it as friendly "banter" but it doesn't rise to that level in my book. Not clever at all...just stuff like repeating what the last one just said in a dumb voice.

YSD Allowed to Arrange an Event at MY House Without Asking Me. Again.

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Wed, 08/09/2017 - 7:25am

Just in a pissy mood. Once again, my DH has allowed YSD to set something up at our house without asking me first.

This time, it's a "trivia night" with her brother and sister. And each skid is bringing a friend or SO...so 6 people. I heard about it for the first time last night after dinner when YSD asked if her friend could come over for the trivia night starting at 2. After YSD went to bed, I asked DH what she was talking about, and he acted like it was no big deal. Just 6 people coming over in the evening for some trivia.

DH is Working Again!!!!

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Submitted by TwoOfUs on Tue, 08/08/2017 - 2:15pm

That's all.

No money coming in yet, but actual paying work that will be somewhat steady / regular. The opportunity came up at my workplace...my boss has a friend & colleague in the industry who was mentioning that he needs an employee like me...someone who can write, work in the office some days but mostly from home...who feels like part of the team but wants and needs the flexibility of being freelance & part-time. My boss asked me if I knew anyone...and I told him to reach out to my DH.

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