Have your DH start emptying the bathroom trash.

Either he addresses it after that on his own or you simply don't have to deal with it. A win either way!

As someone who empties my own trash, I still wrap it and bury it for privacy reasons. Anything less is lazy and rude especially when in a shared garbage situation, stepchild or not.

My father raised 3 daughters and a niece-and if we pulled that shit-he would make one of us (usually me since i"m the oldest) empty the trash.

I taught SD16 and DD13 to wrap their pads in tp and place it in a sandwich baggy and discard in the kitchen trash.

She's doing it to piss you off-Make her empty the damn trash can!

Yeah...I am from the wrap and bury group...nobody wants to see all that!

You didn't say...have you addressed it with her or with your DH?

DH and I had to explain to SD how to dispose of her feminine products. BM never said squat to her about it. Once we told her to wrap them up, she did. She was quite embarrassed!

Ew... I dread the day the skids start bleeding... I’m hoping they’ll be late. I stared at 16... They start then and I’ll only have to deal with t for a few years. Lmao

That being said... I don’t get why they’d just leave it... I know I was highly embarrassed about it all... There’s no way in he!! I’d EVER leave anything like that exposed... Even if I wasn’t taught it... it was all disgusting to me!

Ugh - BabyVoice doesn't use tampons, but she does leave her unwrapped pads in her bedroom trash.

yeah, that's a lovely smell. I don't go in her room EVER but the other day DH was in there and he came out complaining about the smell. I told him what it likely was and he got all kinds of grossed out.

I've only been telling him about this lapse in hygiene etiquette ever since she started her period, but hey, whatever dude.

When I was a young teen we had a little terrier dog, female. Our family was just me, my sister two years older than me, Mom and Dad. We came home from being somewhere one evening and the dog had went in the bathroom , gotten out the buried and tissue wrapped pad and shredded the whole lot through the hallway and into the livingroom. A gazillion little red and white confetti bits everywhere.

Never gain. Mom got tiny trash bags to be kept in drawer by the toilet. The pads/tampons were to be put in this baggie and then in the lined (with a larger bag) waste can. A practice I continued on for myself and my girls. By the time my girls came around and were doing periods, the little bags came in scents and colors. Rule of house was anytime the waste basket was 3/4 full had to tie up main bag and carry out.

Worked well for my family. No digging down to bury (who knows what other icky is buried in there such as used nose tissues) , no exposed or smelly used products.

Not sure if she would actually use this, but in my bathroom, there are two trash cans. One regular one and one really small one with a lid behind the toilet for that time of the month. It looks like this: https://www.amazon.com/Umbra-Mini-Waste-White-Onyx/dp/B01N7LKWGE/ref=pd_... You can put a grocery bag in to line it (with the handles out) and she can empty it before she leaves. I don't envy you, chica. I can't even stand seeing my own waste in the trash...I would be nauseous seeing that from another woman.

Can you just ask her to dispose of her tampons and applicators in a more acceptable fashion? Just tell her that you don’t wish to see that material and could she wrap it in toilet paper before disposing of it. Don’t do it in an angry fashion, just ask her politely. If this continues after that....then you have a whole other set of issues to deal with.

Does your husband have a work area in the garage OR something similar. Put the trash can there so he can see it.

That is discusting and her MOM should have taught her to wrap up her personal items. POOR MOTHERING on her part.

I would call mom and let her know she needs to teach her daughter better.
NO JOKE

At least they are In the trash which is better than in the back of the wardrobe like my SD. But seriously, if she does that then she needs her own small trash bin and empty it herself. If she is having periods then she is old enough to cleanup after herself. I would not be prepared to clean that stuff up after a kid thats not mine - even a kid that WAS mine would have been trained better.

I can still remember the first time I came across a blog related to skids' gross behavior with pads & tampons. I was so relieved to discover I wasn't the only one with a filthy female skid. There have been MANY posts on this subject.

I think it has to do with craptastic parenting and an atavistic drive to mark territory. Children are uncivilized beasties. It takes thousands of parental corrections, tutorials, explanations, reminders, and admonishments to shape them into productive members of society. In an intact family (with normal, sane parents), a mother would teach her daughter about periods and explain appropriate disposal methods for bio waste. Divorce means that each parent becomes responsible for all parenting while their kids are with them, but so much slips through the cracks. And bio dads seem terrified to talk to their daughters about menstruation.

OSD's BM taught her well in this area. The only issue was getting narc OSD to stop blabbing about her period all the time. YSD's mother is mentally ill, and I was unprepared for the feral filthmaker who moved in with us at 14. I taught her how to trash used pads and tampons in the bathroom, but got a disgusting surprise when she moved out w/o notice at 19. When I started packing up all the stuff she'd left behind, I found used pads EVERYWHERE. Under the bed, in her closet stuck on walls, inside drawers with clothes...She'd even put them in the closet for old linens next to her room! Gah!!!!!!

It took nearly a week to clean up her mess. And, I made sure to pack some of those pads in the boxes. They were hers, after all.

I once got yelled at by well known former member on here because I was complaining how my exYSD leaves bloody underwear in our hamper (in my past steplife). Apparently well known former member when she was a SD herself left those things in dadddyyys bathroom hamper and SM had audacity to get upset. Apparently it’s perfectly acceptable to leave bloody things out because she is in her dadddyyss home. Yup. Since then I am afraid to mention any hygiene issues of SDs. Don’t want to get yelled at. But luckily my SDs are not gross. My exSDs were.

I know this subject all too well...When my SD lived with us full-time, she would stuff her used shit in her school backpack! She also put them under her mattress--not on the floor under the bed but directly under the mattress where she slept! They would be in her closet, just chillin' next to her clothes. They would be hidden in the endless pile of dirty clothes she kept on the middle of her bedroom floor. And even in a hair dryer box her new hair dryer came in...she never took out or use the dryer, just stored bloody shit in the box with it.

It's posts like these that scare me. LOL. My SD is 9 and I have a feeling I'll be joining the club soon, although SD uses the downstairs bathroom where her room is and I have nothing to do with its maintenance anyway.