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tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

Submitted by tryingtokeepthe... on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 8:56pm

if BM grounded SS11 for not taking his ADHD medication?

SS11 takes medication for BM's self diagnosis when he was 8 of ADHD. DH has joint custody and sees him every Tuesday. (the other 2 are with him) Whenever SS11 is dropped off and really hungry before we eat dinner we know that he hasn't had his "pill".

DH called BM about it and she said she didn't know if he took it or not she left it on the counter. She does go to work before the bus and there are 3 other adults in the house. DH is always making sure that he takes it on the mornings he is with him.

DH called SS11 today about his soccer practice being cancelled and SS11 stated that he was grounded from his video games all weekend for "not remembering to take his pill" Hello?? I think BM's young husband doesn't want to share the games.

The kids are on Spring Break and with the psychotic bioytch for the next 10 days......

Hmmm..blaming others and not taking responsiblity for ones actions.......that is the common theme in our nasty custody battle.

Can't wait until the question is asked....Have you ever grounded one of your children for not taking medication?

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Sunflower's picture

Submitted by Sunflower on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 9:22pm

You know BM is never at fault she is always perfect and if something is wrong it must be you or if she cant blame you she will even turn on her own kids..What is she thinking Yeah I am gonna ground my son for not taking his meds??? That doesn't make any sense!!I think that you should have the child evaluated.Some people out grow the need to be on meds. (If he actually needed them in the first place) I think the diagnosis of ADD and ADHD are thrown around to often theses days especially when there is no empirical evidence of its existence. The BM in my life had my SS9 on risperdal and concerta.You know we took him off (with doctors supervision) and had him evaluated and it turned out they were wrong he had aspergers syndrome! She just couldnt handle him and liked when he was all zombified on the meds.He is now on an anti depressant to cope with anxiety (as many patients with AS are) and he is quite the normal little boy.If you think that BM may be wrong have DH take him to a doctor and get a second opinion.I would keep a log of every time he is missing his meds.If she keeps that up he could suffer from some serious side effects.(I'm sure that you know that already but I am just being a pain)You know I think that step moms are special because we stand up for the kids that cant speak up for themselves. Smile Best Wishes

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Submitted by Nymh on Sat, 04/11/2009 - 8:27am

I could see myself grounding a child of mine for forgetting meds depending on the situation. If I knew that he was going out of his way to :not: take the medication and it was a repeating offense then yeah, I would probably ground the kid. If he just forgets every now and then, and it's an honest mistake then I wouldn't. If she's leaving the pill out on the counter for him and it's gone but he obviously hasn't taken it, that sounds like he's not taking it on purpose to me (i.e. throwing it in the garbage or flushing it down the toilet).

However, any mention of ADD and ADHD always make me leery...I believe that they are in SOME cases legitimate diagnoses, but more and more often lately I think they are used to medically treat the side effects of simple bad parenting. I have a nephew who is "ADHD" and is on medication...he seems doped up all the time and is allowed to drink caffeine because the doctor told them that caffeine works the opposite on ADHD kids, actually calming them down instead of hyping them up. I've done some research and while this seems legit, I would never let my own child consume caffeine on a daily basis for this or any reason. Consumption of caffeine in children can lead to other developmental and systemic problems that just aren't worth it to "calm your kid down".

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

Submitted by tryingtokeepthe... on Sat, 04/11/2009 - 10:41am

The kid first of all doesn't like to take the medication because of how it makes him feel. He is smart and probably is playing the I forget routine. That worked every Tuesday and every other Friday he kept forgetting his pill until DH found out that BM didn't take him to the doctor or fill a prescription for his pill for almost 4 months. That makes me think that he really doesn't need the medication. It won't be found out until the trial why she didn't do the responsible thing. Te reason would be the cost for the drug would be $50 each month and she has better stuff to spend her money on. SS11 wasn't covered under Medicaid at the time. How interesting that she takes him to the doctor (the copay is only $10) BM has financial responsibility for him and DH has financial responsible for the other 2 kids. BM never has a problem spending DH money but seems to have an issue spending her own.

BM leaves before him every day (the days she goes to work) and like most boys he doesn't take a shower or brush his teeth without reminding him. DH stays on top of him and even I will step in every now and then. BM filed the custody papers and seems to keep making stupid makes that is helping DH's case.

He's not very mature and the following directions is the issue. I don't think he has ADHD and hopefully DH will win his custody case, we will get him reevaluated.