Guardian et visit should be fun
My DH spoke to his attorney today to make sure he calls him after the GAL visit next Monday. I have oodles of emails from BM contradicting herself. And the attorney picked up on those and can't wait to get her in a deposition. She believes in her mind that she will win because she needs in order to pay her bills.
The attorney stated he can tell that it is in her character to lie...and she does almost on a daily basis. He said to make sure we point that out to the GAL.
My SS are early teens and don't think that a Mother that would lie, lie to their father and have her own kids lie to their father. Most of the time its about small stuff. My DH motto is if they tell us the truth they will be in less trouble then if the tell a story.
Why is this is motto? His entire marriage from his ex was started and based on a lie. "Yes, I am on birth control" "He (BM current husband) didn't stick it all the way in...so it isn't cheating." Or the best one she told my MIL "The doctor told me that I was allergic to the kids so you need to watch them for a few days."
BM really believes she is a good mother....lol
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Good Luck Hun
Hopfully the GAL see right through her lies.
Let's us know how you go.
oh wow...
"Didn't stick it all the way in so it isn't cheating"?! Wow, thats a new one. Thats hilarious if she actually believes that!
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
wow what an idiot!
we didnt have much luck w the GAL...he saw that there was nothing going on as BM alleged, BUT he didnt care about anything regarding US. we had tons of texts, VMs and a log of harassment and he basically told us to suck it up and deal w it bc we should go thru hell for the kid and put her before our own lives. thats almost a direct quote! good luck...i know lot sof people have had luck w them and i guess we did in that he saw thru BMs lies, but he said she wasnt lying...just looking into what her kid told her. which was bull bc the kid was 2. its such a crap shoot.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
We are hoping this one will be different then the last........
My H's last GAL didn't even talk to him and did side with the BM but the eventually they settled and H got the 2 oldest she got the youngest.
We got our attorney to ask for a new one BM said No and then we filed a motion for the new one and one. It is one that our attorney works with alot. (He is a GAL as well and in fact on one of her new cases.)
Hopefully this is the ace in the hole.
You can't recycle wasted time............
OMG
Are there really people out there that dense?
I'm allergic to the kids so
I'm allergic to the kids so you need to watch them for a few days??? LOL This woman is certifiable!!!
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
allergies....
THe kids were very young at the time. This woman also would leave the kids at my MIL and take off for days. My H would work 3 jobs so she could stay at home. What a joke!! She had what most women would like to have time with their young kids and she didn't think twice about droppijg them off to anyone that would watch them.
She even told my H that his Mom was mean to her so he didn't speak to his Mom for 2 years. Guess what? She was dropping the kids off and borrowing money to pay the bills. My H didn't find out about this until after he told BM to leave. The last straw was giving her extra money for the boys to play a sport(he out of state working)and when he came back during that season to watch them play they weren't playing. They told him that BM didn't have the money. He started checking on bank records etc and found out she hadn't paid the mortgage in months. BM thinks she told him to leave and even tried to send me email stating that he was abusive and that is why she left. My reply was classic that I show H love, respect, go to work and pay my bills no wonder I don't see any temper. She had no reply.
Sounds like BM's new H is challenged in the length department.
Not that I have much to talk about. My little bro was the one who inherited the donkey genes. :jawdrop: But, I got the looks. We both got the brains.
Sorry ladies but I could not let that opportunity to weigh in go.
It was not all the way in so it was not cheating? Give me a break. A kiss is cheating when you are married. Heck, flirting on line is cheating when you are married. IMHO Bantering with someone while both spouses are present may be acceptable depending on the conversation. IMHO.
I am allergic to the kids? She pretty much proved that she is not only crazy but a complete idiot as well.
All IMHO of course.
Good luck and best regards,
GAL meeting seemed to go well...
My H called me to let me know how his meeting went with the GAL. It lasted over 2 1/2 hours. He said she got off the subject every now and then. He felt comfortable with her and she stated that BM went off on how he doesn't take them to the doctor and how they had so many ailments (which she shops doctors to find them). My H basically told her some stuff that the BM wouldn't even dream of telling her. For example, drug convicted brother that all the kids are around a lot. When she got married (of course lived with him for 3 years before she started the custody battle) left the kids with her friends that live her instead of my H and myself. Yes, there is a right to refusal clause.
The GAL took notes and eventually told my H that her attorney doesn't do any investigating just believe what the client says and runs with it.
BM is like all the other BMs I have read about on here. I think they all have the same DNA flaw, sociopath. BM is a pathalogical liar and our attorney has picked up that it is in her character to lie. We found a big one that the she wrote in an email at work (for a reason to get out of working that day) and we are calling her out on it. It envolves one of the kids and the school that he attends.
I think BM is deliusional and really believes she is going win and also it will be over in Jan. Our attorney says at least it will drag on til summer 09.
BM even had the balls to ask for Xmas Eve until 11pm. She always lives by the book in our local rules for parents that can't agree. Too bad bioytch!! Even year belongs to the biodad!! She gave a guilt email about how her mother wanted to know if he would "allow the kids to come because they have spent Xmas Eve with her family since they were born." BM gave up the right for negoiation during the Xmas season when she filed a motion stating my H was pyschologically and physically harming the children.
Kharma is finally coming around with her......I can't wait to be in the elevator with her with the judge reallocates the parental rights on her ass!! We are going for child support because she has no conscience about money....she loses she pays the attorneys fees. Our attorney estimates by summer we will spend close to 25k.
Don't worry...she makes more money than my H and she spent thousands of dollars while they were married....she will be just fine!!
Today was the actual GAL visit.......
Well, earlier today was the GAL visit. SS11 and BD10 were fighting for her attention. I couldn't really get a vibe on what the GAL was thinking. SS11 wasn't on any medication so he was acting his bouncing off the wall self. BM actually called during the visit. I answered the phone and she wanted to pick SS11 up around 7pm. I made the announcement in front of the whole crowd. Does anyone think that this was rude??? BM told the kids about the visit before we said anything.
Each kid (H boys) got to talk with her alone.(He hasn't said 2 words to H since she left) SS14 (the one that now feels "more comfortable" at BM was in there for over 45. The other 2 about 15 mins. The youngest SS waited until she left to say that she talked about their grades and who they wanted to live with. BM visit was before the new year and H attorney came off from that visit that 1 wanted to live with BM, 1 wanted my H and 1 didn't say anything. I knew that SS14 was playing my H and his family stating that he was confused. There isn't anything confusing on he will have 100% freedom with BM.
H is supposed to talk to his attorney and last Thursday H filed a motion for custody himself. They will still have a shared parenting plan but all 3 boys would be with us along with CS.
GAL wants BM and H to have a meeting. She thinks she can settle this without going to court. H doesn't want to deal the kids again. BM only wants money and that's the bottom line. H asked her if I could be there and she said Yes and that she knew that it was important for me to be there. I made BM uncomfortable the first time I met her at the school for an hour so this is going to be a treat. This all started because of her jealousy and control.
Any thoughts??