My FH was married to his ex for 12 yrs too and had 3 kids with her, he told me that she tricked him with two of them.
he has called her "true evil" the devil incarnate, and several other not made for TV names.
my issues is cleaniness, I see pictures of FH in the house he had with ex and man was it a pig sty, I am not a neat freak but I do like things picked up - so I see him doing the same thing he bitched about his ex, and I think to myself, yeah I bet you helped contribute to that messy household.
he does try but ugh..
oh and when I ask about why he slept with her he said he did not believe in cheating and she was his only option..ick.

“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”

My husband married his ex only because of his son and the marriage lasted almost 6 months..of course he says it's the biggest mistake he ever made..i agree..he tells people that that was his practice marriage and now he is in his real marriage..lol..and I will admit that I did love the look she had when she saw the rock on my finger..lol..it was priceless..

Oh yeah....
I know DH and ex jumped into getting married...he thought he was 'rescuing' her from a bad home life but even he admits now that she manipulated him back then. In fact, they divorced once (before kids) then remarried and had kids together. He's said often how he wishes SK's were "OURS" not "THEIRS".
DH and ex were both to blame for their rocky marriage....to a point...too much stubborn-ness and a lot of "I'll show you" attitude.
The difference in our marriage and theirs....DH has a very short fuse but I don't take it personally like his ex did, plus I know when to keep my mouth shut and I don't egg him on
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"

BM and DH should never have even shared the same airspace, let alone gotten married and reproduced. It was a toxic combo from the beginning. Nope, he was no angel and, knowing him like I do, probably wasn't the best husband material when he was younger. But she was the one who cheated, repeatedly, and I think that was his final straw. He did the "staying together for the kids" thing for a few years. They were both at fault for the marriage failing, but her cheating and wanting him to give up his career was the final nail in the coffin. He was really young when they got married. She's four years older. He's matured a lot since then and is a very different person than he was when they were married. I don't know if she's changed much or not. Probably so. We all do. But I do know that she was very motiviated by money and appearances then and she seems to still be motivated by those same things now. If you ask them, I'm sure they'd both say that their marriage was one big honking mistake the whole way around and that was just compounded by having children. He didn't even plan the children, as she was supposed to be on the pill, but that's another story. Would trade the kids for anything, but still, they were not planned. At least, not by him. Hell, the oldest one isn't even his.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

My FH swears he never slept with "that woman"!!
he also told me she swore she was on the pill and he must have really strong sperm ...baaw ha!
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”