DH does all the exchanges at BM's house because I have said that I don't want BM or her BF at our house. Lots of toxic history with them over the years. I asked DH a year ago to not let them come here anymore and he understood and agreed. It's my way of keeping a boundary with them and not letting their chaos into my space. It's a big deal for me and DH respected that and it's made things a lot better. Until today.

DH and BM have had a toxic relationship for as long as I can remember and I'm sure before I even met DH. They can't communicate without fighting. To be honest, DH has gotten a million times better at not participating, going radio silent when bm starts throwing bombs, etc. Yay DH! However, lately it's gotten worse. I think because DH ignores her so she has upped her game.

So, now that bm and dh are getting along, see my previous other blog posts, all the kids, skids and my bd are in a camp together. Since I signed up bd, dh asked that I enroll skids too. He is working like a crazy man this week so has zero extra time. Sure, no problem. (this was my mistake) So I enrolled them, dh filled out all the paperwork, I drop them off the first day and pay the bill. BM will pay her half later, fine.

So, it may not be that black and white, but I'm curious and in a tough place. DH and BM (I have two skids, 7 and 5) don't communicate well. They stick with the CO 90% of the time. In the off chance something gets changed it's always a battle or manipulation. DH has learned to not fight with her and just plan things around the CO. It's getting better, not perfect, but Rome wasn't built in a day.