Ok so here's the deal! I am in a serious relationship with my girlfriend who has three kids with whom I live with. I have three kids of my own. In the beginning it was awesome to see all six having a blast together! There are the girls (two of mine/one of hers) ages 12,12,14 and the boys (two of hers/one of mine) ages 7,8,9. So they're all around the same age. Her kids father pays child support but doesn't see the kids. My ex-wife is still single with no male role model, so basically I'm the only man dealing with two women and 6 kids. The problem I'm having is that my girlfriend has this notion that I need to be her children's father because I live with them in which I explain that I will be the best Step Father I can possibly be to her kids but I am already a father to my three. She tends to think I show favoritism to my three cause I attend their events more than her kids. I however have sacrificed some events for my children for her children and I feel extremely guilty for it because I feel as though I'm skipping out on my children. She thinks that because my children have a mother that is involved and her kids do not have a father that's involved then I should pay closer attention to her children. And I want to be clear, I love her kids and love going to their events but I've always put my children above anything and now I feel guilty because I'm not doing as much as I could for them now because of my girlfriend's kids. I try to balance and schedule everything as equally as possible but for I.e. If my son has a football game and her son has a football game at the same time, I feel as though it's a no brainier that I will go to my sons football game but then she thinks her kids always play second fiddle to my kids. And in a sense they do! I don't feel as though it's my fault their Dad is a piece of crap nor should my kids suffer because of it. I suppose my question in all this is am I supposed to put her kids at the same level and divide my attention six ways or keep my priorities on my children and do the best I can for her children and continue to let them feel as though they're that second fiddle? Obviously my girlfriend wants door #1 but then I feel as though I'm cheating my children!