Wrapped around her finger
Just when I think "Gee, I have absolutely nothing to blog about this week!" SD9 strikes again. The SD's live about an hour away with their mother. We are supposed to pick them up tomorrow afternoon for our EOWe visit. Apparently this isnt soon enough for good ole SD9. She called my DH in tears about half an hour ago because her mother can't make her choir recital because she has to work. Boo-effing-hoo. How do you think your "daddy" is able to give your mother CS money? I'll give you a hint: it's not because he is sitting around all day waiting for your calls SD. Also, her mother is a teacher. So using the work excuse for an event that takes place during after school hours is a pretty lame excuse.
Anyway, so of course DH falls for her crocodile tears and tells me he is leaving work to go to her recital. Never mind that we have plans to go to a dinner tonight. Never mind that he is picking them up tomorrow. Never mind that it is at least 2 hours roundtrip to go to this recital. All that matters is that SD gets her way. DH didn't even know the kid was in choir until today. I'm not saying that he shouldn't go to her events by all means. If he had advance notice and told me beforehand I wouldn't mind at all. What I do mind is that every time she calls, he runs over there to her rescue. Her mother is the one that chose to move them an hour away from their father and if she can't get her act together to make sure someone is there for her daughter, I don't understand why he feels it necessary to pick up her slack. I am annoyed beyond belief right now.
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Trust me, I thought about it
Trust me, I thought about it and even brought it up to DH when I was trying to get him to think like a rational adult vs a guilty daddy. OF COURSE his angel would never do anything as manipulative as that. I am assuming their nanny is taking her. Yes, their school teacher mother hired a nanny for her school-aged children so that she could spend as little time with them as possible. I am not doubting that she is a worthless BM and would prefer to spend her time at a bar, but I am putting my money on SD's manipulation tactics. Of course, if BM happens to be there, I won't know about it because then DH would then have to admit he was wrong and that his daughter is not an innocent princess. :sick:
Maybe its the pregnancy
Maybe its the pregnancy hormones but I am close to strangling my DH. I told him in the future he needs to get advance notice of these things. That he isn't a single man anymore and that he can no longer just drop everything to go be at SD's beck and call all the time. His response? "Okay, wife. But is it okay if I go to their high school graduations or their weddings?"
I would have kicked his ASS
I would have kicked his ASS for talking like that. You had dinner plans it is not like all that you guys would have been doing was sitting on your butts watching TV for the night. God Help my FDH if he says something like that. I would need a shovel and a tarp.
I can see validity to what
I can see validity to what both you and Vick are saying...I know how irritating it can be when DH finds out about a sk event a few hours before it's scheduled and that throws everything off.
However, I also know what it's like to be a little kid whose parents aren't at an event...it's not fun, regardless of why the parents aren't there. Nannies are nice, but they don't replace mom or dad.
In order to help prevent things like this from happening in the future, DH should check the school website. They post all their major events there.