No, DH, I'm very fond of your kids (usually), just not when you're around. If I didn't like them, I wouldn't watch them for you Saturdays while you go to work. If I didn't like them, I wouldn't plan fun things for them to do, buy them Christmas/birthday gifts, bring home/come up with activities for them, read them bedtime stories, make sure they eat balanced meals, do their laundry, rescue their toys from the dog, or any of the plethora of other things that I do for them and you.
HOWEVER. You seem to think that I'm too hard on them, constantly annoyed by them, and never want them around. And perhaps that's the way YOU see me act when you're there to watch. Now, why would this be the case? My actions don't seem to portray that I don't like them. Perhaps my attitude sometimes? Well, let me tell you dear, YOU give off the attitude that you are constantly annoyed with them. I am NOT the one who gives spankings, or yells when they don't listen. Because when you're not around, 9 times out of 10, THEY LISTEN TO ME. So let me explain why it seems to you that I "don't like the kids."
IT'S YOU. When you're not around, I have generally good behavior from them. Yes, SD5 is a drama queen, and likes to throw tantrums/whine when she doesn't want to clean her room or do whatever else it is she is told/not to do. How do I deal with this? I put her little whiney butt into her room and shut the door until she's done. How do you deal with this? You start out ignoring it... until it irritates you, at which point you yell and give her the attention she wants. I will admit to having issues with SS7's behavior at times, but he's autistic and I deal with it. And let me tell you, I don't have to deal with any of these behaviors as much as I used to. That is, until you get home.
So, my love, let me explain why I get so irritated at them when you're around.
THE MOMENT YOU WALK IN THE DOOR YOUR CHILDREN TURN INTO BABIES.
They can no longer do anything for themselves.
Whining increases exponentially.
The constant, nasally sound of DAAADD, DAADDDDYYY, or my personal favorite (:barf:) DADA, DADA, from your FIVE YEAR OLD. Yes it's cute when the baby does it, she's 9mos old. From a 5 yr old its nauseating.
They argue, and SS7 tries to "bargain"
They tattle 10x more, over nothing.
They whine about whatever happens to be served for whatever meal, in the hope that you won't make them eat all or any of it (esp veggies) and will then let them have a snack when they try to postpone bedtime later that night.
They WILL NOT go to bed without whining for DDAAADDDDDYYYY every 10-15 minutes for 1-2 hours.
They will use EVERY excuse in the book to postpone bedtime.

I know you are working on being a better, more consistent parent (because G-D knows BM isn't). However, I expect the same behavior from them whether you are around or not. It's just MUCH harder to get those behaviors when you're there. So yes, DH, I do get frustrated/irritated with your kids (some days MUCH more than others) but unfortunately, it's mostly because you're home.