Ass2 is 20, living with BM, and entering the THIRD year of looking for work, CS stopped late last year and surprise surprise, siince the gravy train stopped BM is unhappy and well ass2 feels like the " party " isn't as fun as it once was !!

We have not even left for our visit to skidville ( different country) and ass2 sent a memail at the weekend saying they want to move over and live with us !! DH and I BOTH said Hell NO !!! Skid actually wrote they believe it will be much easier for them to live here while looking for work ??? WTF ??? All that would change is it would be a new sofa ass2 would be spreading out on. DH discussed it with me, he knows ass2 is not looking for work very hard, I mean a person cannot even find a part time or weekend work and has been looking for really over 4 years. ( DH has pushed for ass2 to find weekend work way before ) DH KNOWS there is work where ass2 is, there really is.....

DH sent back a very sensible email reply ( ass2 said not to ring him ??) explaining all the reasons why NO this is NOT an option ( yay DH !!) This is before even just how expensive it would be to move countries, the visas the legal side, etc etc.

What does ass2 do?? They reply with a lot of lies about how they are being used as a slave ?? How they feel in danger with BM ?? How they do not feel wanted or appreciated where they are, blah, blah, it's all lies and DH said he KNOWS it, and did not reply to such drivel. Ass2 said yeah, they understand how difficult it would be for DH to move them out to here .... sorry ass2 it's not " difficult " it's IMPOSSIBLE !!

DH is planning a big ol' chat with this " adult " when he sees them soon .......