Bs 10 asking questions.
So ex does not speak to his parents. He made up a horrible lie about his brother ( I know it is not true because of what he told me when we were first together and what his new victim version is) .They are nice people but I have distanced my self as they are not my family and I have my own.
However they love bs10 and his brothers and when they are in town they want to see them. Since there is no communication with ex they go through me. I have always said let me know what you want and I will work with you. It is not their fault that the ex is the way he is and they are bs 10's family.
Well bs knows that his dad doesn't have a relationship with them and that when they are in town and he sees them that stays between us. I hate that but he knows that there are certain things you don't talk about with his dad.
He will see them tomorrow and he has said he thinks it is wrong that his dad is like this with his parents and keeps asking me to tell him why. He is very upset with his dad shutting nana and papa out and for his dad referring to his new wife's dad as papa.
I would never tell him the real reason and have told him it is grown up business, but I see this as the beginning of a lot of questions about his dad and i.
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It is the beginning of a lot
It is the beginning of a lot of questions, you are correct.
My kids asked all kinds of questions about Asshat and Money-Ka - she was his secretary before she was his wife and, of course, they knew her. I had ALL KINDS of things I wanted to tell them, but each and every time they asked about how they met, when they met, when they started dating, why we got divorced, I simply responded "you will have to ask him/her/them."
It worked for a long time - and then they were old enough to put it all together themselves.
I commend you for maintaining the relationship with your BS's paternal grandparents It's important for kids to remain connected, and since dad won't do it, I am glad you are
I feel bad for his mom, she
I feel bad for his mom, she is a very nice lady...not perfect but human. She feels awful.
I do not want him to ask his dad because I do not want him to here his dad's screwed up lies.
He has made up a lie that his brother sexually abused him. It did not happen. He told me early on what happened and it was not that. His story changed and morphed into this huge lie that shattered their family.
My son loves his dad but knows his dad has issues and exaggerates and tells stories but he does not need to hear the lies or the truth as they have ruined the relationship his older brothers have with their dad.
ugh, i see what you're
ugh, i see what you're saying, if he asks his dad he won't get a truthful answer. i mean this in the sweetest way possible, but that's none of your business. maybe you could phrase it as "i don't know son, you know i'm not involved in your dad's relationship with his parents, that's between them. if you really want to know, you could ask One Of Them" (and just leave it vague like that - maybe if he wants to know bad enough he'll ask nana instead of dad, but that's up to him).
I really don't want it to be
I really don't want it to be my business either...
I am just going to stick with grown up business and just have fun with nana and papa.
I am saving my hail Mary for when ex tells his big lie he has created about me and why we are divorced.
You've certainly come a long
You've certainly come a long way since your first few blogs...
I think you have me confused
I think you have me confused with someone else. I have been on here 10 years. 5 as this and 5 as something similar but I forgot my password..lol.
no, I meant your first few
no, I meant your first few blogs under this account about how your ex twisted the version of why he'd been arrested, the therapy, etc... I got curious about the Hail mary you mentioned and was on a lunch break so I went reading
Got ya, it can get confusing
Got ya, it can get confusing remembering everyone.
I had deleted all my blogs when we were going through and leading up to the divorce...just in case.
If I have to ever tell bs the truth about his dad it will only be if ec tells his twisted version that I had him arrested for my own gain in the divorce. Then I will tell what all transpired because I will not allow his lies to ruin my relationship with bs.
I would never share it with bs for any other reason. He knows his dad was not good to me, he just doesn't know how bad he was.
sounds like a plan! how is
sounds like a plan!
how is the italian stallion?
Hubby is good he enjoys being
Hubby is good he enjoys being a step dad for the most part and does a great job. He really has a good relationship with bs.
But - his dad is his dad,
But - his dad is his dad, warts and all. It's not your place to lie for him or provide cover for his crazy.
Kid is going to have to figure out who dad is at some point..
He has some idea that his dad
He has some idea that his dad is not wired like the rest of us. It is a fine balancing act between telling what a screws up individual he is and being fair... thank God for wine.
don't give the kid any wine -
don't give the kid any wine -
Like Tuff said above, this just isn't your business (thank dog!) - if he persists, just tell you don't know and you don't speak for dad.
I know the line you mention well - it's an equally fine line between telling your kids that daddy's secretary is going to be their SM and not killing anyone
No kidding. One good thing
No kidding.
One good thing about Looney is he marries good women. Bm1 and sm are both good ladies.
i don't know how you did
i don't know how you did it.......
Some days I don't know
Some days I don't know either. Between that and struggles with bs' s emotional health it has had some challenges and throw in the MS to boot. But what other choice is there than to be strong and keep on going. You just have to try and do the right thing and keep on going.
I drank
I drank
LMFAO! i literally sprayed
LMFAO! i literally sprayed my monitor!
The suckiest thing about MS,
The suckiest thing about MS, or one of them is it does make me a two glass girl. :(. Wine makes me warm and then my right hand gets more pins and needles like.
My mom has MS. She says the
My mom has MS. She says the same thing about wine.
It is a bummer because I love
It is a bummer because I love a good Vouvrey or cabernet.
boo!
boo!
Why not simple tell him,
Why not simple tell him, Kiddo I'm not really sure of the facts but I think you will have to ask Dad... and if he does not want to talk about it let it be, then he's not ready.... but kiddo remember their issues is nothing to do with you, no one holds you responsible