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Doing things for skids..

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Wed, 10/14/2015 - 9:47am

..that *appear* to be helpful to them, but are actually for your own benefit! (ooh, sneaky)

I can't remember which blog it was now, but I read somewhere about an SM  who helps their skid with homework. 

She said she does this because she wants him to get good grades, in order to eventually one day go to college/get a good job and get out of her house LOL

It got me thinking.. And I realised I actually do stuff for SS5 like that too. That seems to be for him, but is *actually* for me!!

Pick up time for SS varies sometimes. If DH goes to get him when it's almost time for SS's evening meal, I will *make sure* that food is being placed on the table for SS walking in the door.

This means he comes into the house, eats, then gets ready for bed. So I dont have to put up with him for that long on that particular day.

I can't think of anything else right now, but I'm sure there's more lol! Ok maybe I really am an evil stepmom lol

What things do *you* do that are "helpful" but also secretly beneficial to you?

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secondplace's picture

Submitted by secondplace on Wed, 10/14/2015 - 10:21am

These are from a blog I wrote a couple of years ago:

Sometimes I do things that seem really nice for the SD’s, but in reality I have an ulterior motive. For example, I make sure the air conditioning is on in our weekend RV so they’ll be comfortable. In reality I would just rather them stay in there so they aren’t outside bugging us all weekend.

I told DH that the girls need to find friends at our R.V. park so they will want to continue to come on the weekends when they get older. You know what the real reason is. If they’re busy with friends, they won’t be hanging all over us.

If the skids have something else they want to do on DH’s weekend, I tell DH, “well it’s not really fair to the kids if you say no”. While I do believe that to be true, well we know what the motive is there.

I try to be extra quiet in the morning so the skids will sleep in later.

I encourage their reading etc. Keeps them from interrupting my conversations.

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Submitted by JustAgirl42 on Wed, 10/14/2015 - 10:38am

Nothing really, because times that I HAVE sincerely done things for SD, FDH didn't believe it was really just for her...so 'F' that!

ETA: SALLY, stop buying those Moncler jackets so that they will stop spamming us!! Blum 3

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Submitted by Cover1W on Wed, 10/14/2015 - 11:47am

Sometimes to get SD11 into doing something like actually helping clean something up I'll tell her, "If you want to have your own apartment or live in a dorm with someone in college you need to know how to do this..."
Works every time.

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Submitted by stepinafrica on Wed, 10/14/2015 - 1:53pm

This is why I don't think disengaging 100% is a good idea. If the kid becomes a failure in life guess what? He is going to be living with you forever.