Ex Parte
Ex Parte has been dropped. SD has been telling some very big tall tales, apparently DH locks her in the basement when he isn't busy verbally and emotionally abusing her.
On DH's request parenting time is being halted, unless in therapy. The judge is also allowing DH to chose the therapist. So now we need to find a counseler that specializes in parental alienation reunification. DH and I agree unless there are big changes though SD will no longer be coming over, even after therapy. It's too dangerous.
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I knew I did the right thing
I knew I did the right thing by buying a house with no basement door to lock!
I don't blame your DH for stopping visitation one bit.
We don't have a lock on our
We don't have a lock on our basement door either :?
We have to protect ourselves.
I remember when my (step)dad went to adopt us and my stepsister claimed he sexually abused her to prevent it. We don't want it getting to that point.
Your situation is
Your situation is dangerous.
What was the Ex Parte for?
I hope the Judge also agrees that Child Support will not be adjusted NOW that dad does not have overnights.
BM is claiming DH abuses SD
BM is claiming DH abuses SD to the point she is self harming her face. The mark in question was on her face when DH picked her up for his parenting time, it's consistent with road rash or a rug burn. SD had played laser tag the afternoon DH picked her up...BM and SD claim it happened after DH picked her up-she made the mark with a razor after DH looked at her in a way that triggered her emontional insecurties (BMs words).
Given the different stories she's telling different people, it's clearly a cry for help, I just don't think it's a cry for help from self harm-if that makes sense? I think BM has alenated her badly and they have a sick hero/victim emeshment thing going on. Also, my understanding of self harm is that unless there's a major psychotic break or major personality disorders they don't go after their faces.
Either way though, we have to treat the issue as though it's a real problem, which it could be.
I knew a girl in high school
I knew a girl in high school who during art class rolled up her sleeves and her arms were very marked up. I said whoa what happened and she said oh my cat did that and quickly rolled down her sleeves. I felt strange about the conversation but unfortunately had no idea what self harm was back then.
Good grief!! I'm sorry you
Good grief!! I'm sorry you and your DH are going through this craziness.
What was the Ex Parte
What was the Ex Parte for????
An acquaintance of ours daughter self harmed. UP and down her arms. That was years ago.
In her case she stopped.
The ex parte was because BM
The ex parte was because BM was claiming abuse and wanted to end all visitation.
Holee shiznits. WTF I'm so
Holee shiznits. WTF I'm so glad your DH sees the steps needed to protect your family. I wish you were closer--we had a therapist who specialized in stepfamilies that was very, very good (we saw him for couples therapy but touched upon step stuff too.)
Your LO needs you guys--she's not of an age where she can voice her own opinions the way your SD can, so I'm super glad you and your DH are able to take the steps needed in order to keep your family safe. So sad you guys have to go through this though, and it sounds expensive already.
Stay strong!
I wish we lived closer too!
I wish we lived closer too! Can you imagine the play dates?
Fortunately, DH can pick the therapist so that should eliminate some of the bias, our attorney (fathers right bulldog and as such expensive) will make some recommendations I'm sure.
It's really disgusting when
It's really disgusting when parents PAS their children at all but especially to this point. They ARE hurting the other parent yet the most damage is done to the child. When you tell a child that their other parent is abusive, evil, negligent, etc you're telling them that that's what they are. This poor girl is going to be so messed up and confused and oh how she will try to manipulate the world to get her way. Pity the real world doesn't work like her dysfunctional family and give a pass because she's a special snowflake.
This is so abusive.