Dh spent time with ss15 last evening while I was at work. This is good, I want him to spend time with his own kid, however, now ss15 is wanting dh to go to church with him. Ss15 initially started going to this church b/c his 19 yr old gf's family was going there. Since the big blow up (apparently) they are broke up but ss15 still goes to this church. Anyhow ss15 wants his dad to get back into religion since now he has cancer.

Well all of that is fine except for a few reasons:

1) dh wants me to come along with him and ss15 (sorta like a family thing on Sunday late afternoon. I usually work so it won't work for me to go but he wants me to work another shift. He thinks maybe it'd be good for my boys to go to and I agree in that it'd be good for my boys to go but they don't want to go.

2) it's a church I would not chose to go to, it'd be the last one I'd go to. I am not of that particular religion.

3) Also and lastly, why would I want to go and play family with ss and dh. I am not close to ss15 at all and cannot hardly stand to be in the same room let alone got to church with him. Seems hypocritical.

Don't get me wrong, I would love to join and church with dh of our chosing. In fact I have been thinking about that. So why is dh closed to the idea of us joining a church and having ss15 either JOIN US or not. That way it's our thing not ss's thing? DH says he's trying to spend mroe time with ss and he's worried that him having cancer is causing ss to be very depressed. Am I being selfish? Should I let them go and continue my work shift and let it be their thing? I'm thinking that last part is what I'll end up doing. Let it be a dh/ss15 thing.

So what are your thoughts on this and what have any of you done in the same situation?