WOO HOO - THERE ~IS~ A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE STEP TUNNEL !!

Everybody sitting down????

So, sd has been dating this guy from the air force. Seems to be a real nice clean cut guy. Well he comes over last Friday to ask DH permission to ask Sd hand in marriage.

Now..both of think 19 is way too young for marriage-but what to you do? Forbid it - ya right! So permission granted. The best news is after the marriage they both will be going to Germany...did y'all hear that? Sounds awesome my sd in Germany and married to good guy. What this fella didn't understand is that we just wanted to jump up to hug him and thank him. Hehe

So, ladies....yes there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!!!

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That's great!

Me likes happy endings.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

woohoo

SW how great for you!! I can only dream that someone will come along and take Unibomber away..like the cops.
are you doing the happy dance?

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

SW -

Do you see that black lady in the distance twirling? Yea! THat would be me turning cartwheels for you. LOL. Congratulations. Now lets hope that the wedding actually happens, SD actually moves to Germany, and that she changes for the best to remain in the marriage. Lord knows we don't want her to get homesick or lose her mind and want to come "HOME." ICK. I'm going to celebrate as if it were my great news.

People who get on HIGH Horses will find the fall to be most painful. ~ME :->

Happy Ending!

For you-

We are still trying to get Zippy remotely interested in girls-he is 16 going on 12(if that) in that department!

Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!

Yay!

I can't wait until Blabb is old enough to find a guy to take her away.

Of course, I have a feeling that DH won't let that happen until she's 50. :barf:

Maybe not!

SD has been "dating" since she was like 12. Somehow both DH and BM take it as a "compliment" that boys are interested in their little girl. Does that make sense? (Even down to buying her padded bras and thong underwear at 11.) So maybe your DH will "encourage" SD to date, so he can think, "What an attractive, desireable daughter I raised." Gross!

You are kidding right?

Who buys padded bras and thongs for an 11 year old? I guess she will be right on target for them to purchase nursing bras with a matching bassinet at 16. I really don't understand people. I just did a post a couple of weeks ago asking who lets their 12 year old date? How irresponsible of them.

People who get on HIGH Horses will find the fall to be most painful. ~ME :->

Don't get me started

I'm SO not kidding. DH actually bought SD a padded push-up bra when she was 11, along with a shirt that read "Coed midnight beach party." I made him take them both back, and he was PISSED. I finally got him to understand he didn't want middle school boys "noticing" his daughter's breasts. They're going to do that anyway, why draw attention to them?

SD was POd, of course, so she got BM to buy her the bras instead, along with thong underwear. I see NO reason why a child needs thong underwear, to me that says she's planning to show them to someone. DH told SD NOT to bring the thong underwear to our house, but he didn't do anything to her when she did so it was a hollow threat. If I saw them, I made them "disappear," along with the padded bras. It got so SD wouldn't take them off at night or literally only took them off long enough to take a shower. DH claimed he never "noticed" that SD was wearing a padded push-up bra. Excuse me? It's pretty hard not to miss, as she's not that well-endowed.

But I finally gave up. It wasn't worth the hassle of fighting with DH, BM, AND SD. Let her be trashy, if that's what they want.

Sorry Mustang

Your BFs an idiot! Society does not dictate how you raise a kid, your own values and principles do. If I left it to society my kids would be hanging out whenever and wherever half the night in 5th grade because that's what a lot of my neighbor's allow. If it were up to society my son would walk around with his pants hanging off his ass with his underwear showing because that is what "everyone else is doing." If society dictated my SS12 would have his ears pierced because "all of his friends parents let them." If society dictated there would be no need for me to do anything but shell out bucks and accept disrespect because that's what many of my kids friends parent's allow. What a stupid remark. I guess it is easier to blame society rather than enforce your own rules.

People who get on HIGH Horses will find the fall to be most painful. ~ME :->

Ummm...BM did.

They were called "the incredible push up" from Walmart (by hanes maybe?) and were not only all that (triple padded making her go from an A to at LEAST a C), they came in neon colors, bold patterns, front closures, lots o'lace. All SD's trashy friends were wearing them. BM also gave SD BM's own lingerie type panties to wear back here once. I knew because they were larger than the size I wear - probably ones BM GREW OUT of ;). SD was in girls 10/12's at the time.

When I asked the psychologist how to deal with all this inappropriate and suggestive underwear coming home, she recommended telling SD, "If you and BM like to play dress up at BM's then we could care less, but in our house we supply you with plenty of age appropriate underwear so leave the stuff she gives you over there."

Then, when that didn't work we started just throwing them out (which we had warned both of them about before.) SD was furious, indignant, would rage how we had NO RIGHT to throw that away because they belong at my MOM's. We would say, "Well, we told you to leave them there, told you we'd toss them if we found them, and still you bring them back. BM would call screaming at DH, and he would tell her, "We have asked her to leave what you buy her at your house or we would throw out anything we felt inappropriate....BM...BM! You are her MOTHER not her BUDDY!"

I was so proud. Of course in that conversation BM suggested to DH "SHE (ie me) needs a LIFE or a JOB or something. Have you address HER obsession with SD's UNDERWEAR with HER therapist????"

DH said, "Therapist! What a good idea! When is YOUR appt?"

Click.

I told him if she brought me into it again to tell BM, "Well you're right, it was Sita that found your lingerie in our laundry. She knew it couldn't be SD's b/c it was bigger than Sita's size and SD is still in little girl underwear!" Unfortunately, BM never gave him another chance to use that line .

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

I've got a major gross factor

Kids came home one weekend from BMs and she had half-assed washed laundry. Even when she does wash, SS brings everything and puts it to be washed again. IDK why. So, I am sorting and there is a black pair of Victoria Secret panties that do not look familiar to me. When I pay attention to where they came from (the stack that SS had added) I realized that they were BMs. Can you say GROSS. I had touched them. I assume they were clean since the stuff had been "washed." I grabbed a stick from outside and threw them in the trash and raged through the house that they better make sure to NEVER bring another anything of hers to my house. Here is the interesting thing. I shop Vicki's Secrets. I range from a Med-Large depending on the type of panty. Explain why someone whose ass is CONSIDERABLY larger than mine was in a Large? No wonder she is always mad and delusional. Them too small panties are cutting off oxygen to her brain.

SD was wanting to shop at Victoria's Secret. NOT! She then wanted to start buying the body fragrances from there. NOT. I get her the one's from Bath and Body Works. I know it may seem simple to some, but I just have a problem with the fact that Victoria Secrets implies "SEXINESS" and no child should be partaking in anything that portrays that image. When they are 18. IDK. 12-13 NOT! I am really old-fashioned in that sense.

People who get on HIGH Horses will find the fall to be most painful. ~ME :->

I am sooo happy

for you.... That sounds like a dream come true. My SD20 who is attending college an hour and half away told her dad this weekend she wanted to go to school about 30 minutes away...:( BUT I would be celebrating your news...

Two SDs down, one to go here...

So true, SW, things are SO MUCH better since two of the SDs have other men to obsess over other than "daddy"....I never though the day would come when his 20 something Ds wouldn't have to rely on "daddy" for everything under the sun.

One SD to go, but she's not really around too much. When she IS, however, she is one annoying obnoxious piece of work. Almost 30. I don't know if ANY MAN will take her away.

Anyway, SW, congrats. It IS nice, isn't it!!

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt

That's great SW!!!

JamaicanMeCrazy
DISNEY LIED...THERE IS NO 'HAPPILY EVER AFTER'

I'm thrilled for you! Get those wedding plans going before they changes their minds! lol!!

Woo Hoo!

Maybe now you can relax!

I would be wishing for the same right now, but I think 10 and 12 might be a little too young.

SoF

not in some countries, you just gotta know which ones!
}:)
"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

The best of BOTH WORLDS!!!

Not only is SD getting married to a decent man (maybe some of it will rub off), but she's moving FAR away...

I bet you couldn't have imagined a happier ending!

Congrats to you!

"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"

I hope for his sake that he is the one

Who can help her finally mature and be responsible in a relationship with another person. But if not, that's HIS problem.

GOOD NEWS SW!!!!!

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

Congratulations!

I'm very happy for you!

thanks all !!!

Man...I still can't believe it! Too cool.. As for the wedding plans...I'm sooo staying out of it! I'll write a check, but that is about it. I will probably give her something traditional also. But as for helping make plans, I'll leave that up to her mother. We don't have conversions with bm anymore-why you ask-because we don't have to anymore! (giggle)

Sita your right, not our problem anymore-that was the reason we wanted to hug the dude! Remember we are talking about a kid who would sit and cry because she couldn't figure out how to find a phone number...so, what in the hell is she going to plan a wedding, let alone get around in Germany...I don't know, maybe she has grown a little by now, who knows. I say good luck...

As for the thong/miracle bra at 10/11... My bd is 13 and she is in the 8th grade. She claims that she has a boyfriend and is going out with him....but I tell her no...not going out-too young. And she will not be dating. These are standards we set, and don't let "society" dictate our standards. When you are not dealing with your own children and have an outsider (bm) contadicting your standards your fighting a loosing battle. What I always worried about was the impact it would make on my children. But I think that our bk can see the difference. I'm surely not saying my kids are perfect, because they are far from...but they are on the path that we have set.

Stay strong, stay cool and all will be ok. Luv y'all!!!

Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!