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Almost Monday

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Keeping this short cause I'm typing from my phone, but just wanted to share a good s-kid moment.
Sd8 called today to let us know when shed be arriving for the week, and told her dad she was making me a bracelet as a surprise Smile Shes awfully sweet sometimes! Well, often really. It's her week off school and I am actually looking forward to it. Here's hoping everyone has a good week!

Weekend Update ;)

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So finally getting around to posting about the weekend. I swear we sail through the school week fine but as soon as the weekend comes drama starts. Some of it is that SD8 is all about how much fun stuff we are going to do with her... She really loves spending time with us and that's nice cause I'm sure in a few years she won't. But she hasn't learned when to quit it cause dad & stepsoftly are tired and need to wind down. Is that a parenting thing rather than a stepparenting thing? Probably but I wouldn't know.

Apparently it's OK for BM to eat our food now?

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Darling SD8 just came in to get her stuff that goes to her mom's house each week with her, as she does each Monday after school when she's going there. She was happy and sweet and gave hugs, and then, total weirdness.
SD: "Can I have that Lunchable from the fridge?"
FDH: "Sure, go grab it."
As she heads to the kitchen, she calls back, "My mom wants it."
FDH: "Your mom wants it-- to eat?"
SD: "Yeah"
FDH & I stare at each other in disbelief. I start to giggle and answer his confused look with "I don't know!" He whispers "But what the f***?"

Monday is the day SD goes to her mom's

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So it's always a day of adjustment. FDH & I both work at home so once SD8 is off to school we buckle down and work like crazy to get a head start on the week. But this is the every-other-Monday that she will go to her mom's after school instead of coming back here. So there's this feeling of something missing, but the possibility of more flexible plans at the same time. We like our weeks without SD, but we do miss her -- FDH more so than me, which I imagine is pretty normal and expected.

New to StepTalk

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The title's not entirely correct -- I've been reading StepTalk for several months, trying to find some clarification on my situation, and it's been very helpful, but I am irritated for kind of vague reasons tonight and needed to finally take the step to vent in a post.

I am engaged to and living with my FDH. I have a SD8 who lives with us every other week, the other 50 % of the time with her BM. I have it great compared to a lot of STers, I know, because she is generally well-behaved and BM is fairly drama-free, although she & I don't have much contact, FDH deals with her.

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