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What is PAS?

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Submitted by steppinginsf on Tue, 05/11/2010 - 10:06am

I keep seeing this acronym in reference to bio-parents who are denying access to kids, are aggressive, etc.
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Submitted by Sia on Tue, 05/11/2010 - 10:14am

It stands for parental alienation syndrome..... there are lots of good books on it, but you can check out the website at www.paskids.org I think is the address for it.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Tue, 05/11/2010 - 11:12am

The only book I've read about it (it was recommended to me when I found this site) is Divorce Poison. Excellent book! I checked it out at the library & ended up purchasing my own copy to reference back to. It explains so much about the different types of alienation tactics, & how to counteract them. Very very helpful!

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Submitted by overmyhead on Tue, 05/11/2010 - 1:12pm

One other form of PAS that I don't hear much about is the form we experience. BM wants us to take the kids, as she needs the break (which I understand and am fine with). However, she gets off on the kids "needing her" and poisons the kids against us to make herself feel better when they call and say they miss her etc. We are at the point now where we don't even see them anymore, as they make us feel that they dislike us and would rather not see us at all.
There are many forms of PAS, some obvious, some less obvious. All of it abuse.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Tue, 05/11/2010 - 1:22pm

That's what ours turned into. DH had me. BM can't seem to find someone who will put up with her for more than a couple of months, so she would tell skids how lonely she was when they'd come visit us, & how much she needs them. It has reached a point now, where skids are feeling obligated to care for her & protect her feelings, & they don't do anything with friends because she needs them. She has taught them that she only needs them, & they only need her. When DH took her to court to enforce visitation, the judge determined they were old enough to decide where they wanted to spend their time, so they have nothing to do with us now.