Ok, after a very rough week last week, DH and I patched things up.. even though I was "Done" we got past it.. not that all is forgotten and DH knows this.

We had a weekend without the kids to just sit and really hash things out..

Saturday, we went to look at a kitten that a friend of mine who owns the rescue we got our current cat from recommended for us.. our cat is dying from cancer. Well, it's not exactly "our cat".. my daughter and I had this cat before we got involved with DH and skids.. the cat adores my daughter and me.. and can't stand the skids.

The skids have a dog they brought to the marriage too. He is a needy pain in the ass.

Anyways.. we brought the kitten home and per the instructions from my friend on how to slowly introduce the little fella into our household, we started in baby steps. The kitten has been staying in our master bedroom - food, litter box and all and we have slowly been acclimating him to the rest of the 4 legged family. It should take about 10 days..

Now, bear in mind this kitten was brought into the home as a band aid to help my daughter get over the fact that her cat has cancer and probably will need to be put down by the end of this month..

I have no problems with the skids playing with, loving on or anything with this kitten.. but they need to understand that this is mainly my daughters kitten to help her get over the death of her cat. Is that too much to ask?

Apparently so.. ss14 is already whining about wanting to sleep with the kitten when we haven't even gotten him used to the rest of the house.. ss12 wants to have him play with him.. in his room.

The only person that hasn't demanded anything is my daughter - who the kitten is for!!

The kids each came into our bedroom and play with the kitten - no issues there. And the little guy is comfortable with our current cat and is getting used to my small dog.. next is the big dumb one.

But no.. that's not good enough. The skids are pushing me to just let it out of the room and deal with the dogs or "lock the kitten and the big dog in the laundry room so they can work it out".. are you serious..??

So, now I see resentment setting in.. the skids are pissy about the kitten and the past day and a half don't even ask to see him..

I mean seriously.. can't they ever just think about another person's feelings for one second? DH was like "it's not just your daughters kitten".. I know this.. it's not all her kitten, but when her cat passes it is whatever she needs it to be to help her through that time.. You mean to tell me these kids can't understand and accept this? That hey, maybe they can back off and let the kitten love her up and not be jealous since her cat just DIED?

If their dog died and they got a puppy, I know for a fact my daughter would not be trying to hog the thing.. she would be the way she always is - compassionate and kind. Something apparently the skids are not.