My DH has temporary guardianship of my SS6 who has been in our home for almost a year now. The BM willing gave temporary guardianship to my DH because she no longer wanted her son. The BM really don't have much to do with her son. But the grandmother who is BM mother still dose sometimes and she seems to think she has the right to show up to our house and demand her GS without having to ask us first.

Well here is the story. My SS6 just turned 6 on the 11th of this month and we had a birthday party for him on the 13th and was nice enough to invite his GM. Well she shows up late to his party and start taking over everything like always. She is a controlling loud person. She walks in front of my SS6 as he is oping up his gifts and takes the one he is trying to open away from him and gives her gift to him instead of sitting it down and moving ass out the way, she stands in front of him and pulls all the dollar tree toys out here bag where no one can see, and I'm trying to record this and she won't move. That pissed me off. Well after he was done oping up his gifts he had left she wanted to leave.

She gave him a kiss and told him she loved him and that if he wanted to he could put all his new toys and presents in her car and go to her house to play with them. I looked at her and said no, they are going to his house where he lives.

Then SS6 asked DH if he could go home with her dearing the party, DH said no, then the GM going to say Daddy will bring you by my house when y'all are done here I promise. She didn't even ask, plus before the party started my SS6 already had plans cause he came and ask me could his friend stay the night and I said yes.

So after his GM left I told my SS6 we already made plans for your friend to stay the night that he can go to his GM tomorrow and spend the day with her, He threw a fit infont of everyone and showed his butt. He even got mean to his friend and told him I don't want you to stay the night, so I got upset and said now you can't go to your GM house or have your friend stay the night after acting like that.

Well 8:30 that night rolled around and the GM texted my DH and said are you bring my GS over, he said no cause he showed his butt today he needs to learn he can't have his way. She said well punish him tomorrow not to night I want my GS tonight, DH told her no and left it at that.

Well 9pm rolls around and I have my front door open cleaning and trying to get my SS6 ready for bed and then his GM going to walk up in my home and say to my ss6 hey baby you got your clothes ready to stay the night with me? He said let me go ask my daddy, I said to her didn't my DH tell you no not tonight you can have him tomorrow? She said I didn't come all this way for nothing he is going with me. She went on to say I can revoke his temporary guardianship blah blah blah.

I said no you can't his mother would have to and my DH wouldn't sign the papers so yall would have to take us to court, she went on to say well I will if I have to but I know he is in a good home and blah blah bla.

DH didn't want to fuss with her and I didn't want to make a seen in front of my SS6 then he would have hard feelings for me for saying the things to his GM that I would have said if he wasn't standing right there.

MY DH thinks his x mother in law has the right to see her GS when she wants, I told him from what was told to me through legal advice, he dose not have to let the BM or GM see the minor that is in his care. She did say yes they can take legal action, but he dose not have to let them see the child if he feels its best thing.

No my DH dose not want to stop the GM from seeing her GS but I do not feel she has the right to come in our home and think she can get her GS when she wants with out asking or taking him after we done told her no the first time like she did that night.

The GM wouldn't revoke the temporary guardianship cause one she has some thing wrong where her bones are deteriorating so she wouldn't get him for that and plus so much more stuff that I have proof to back up cause her and the BM always are moving never stay in one place the GM and BM has always passed my SS6 back and forth since he was a year old and the GM had adopted a family members son and she had him since he was born he is 8 now and she just gave him back to his BM cause she couldn't take care of him, The BM dose not want her son and has a drug use problem so she is unfit, so if she does drag us to court they will be paying for us to have full custody of the child. There is so much more on them then this, just not going to explain it all..

So I just wished my DH wouldn't worry about what SS6 GM says she will do cause she can barley afford gas to come get him from what she clams so she won't have the money to drag us to court.

My SS6 GM and us made a deal that she could come get him every other weekend and she even stopped doing that she just got to where she thinks she can come get him when she wants with out even asking us first.

How do I deal with this cause in my mind she can not just come get my SS6 when ever she feels like cause she dose not have that right.