On 6/19 my wife went to the emergency room and was admitted to the hospital because she needed to have her gallbladder removed. She left the hospital on 6/22, but then ended up having to go back to the hospital on 6/24 where she stayed for 5 more nights because she had to have 2 more surgical procedures done.

During all this SD22 got strep throat, and gave it to GS3 who we have temporary guardianship over. Normally SD23 watches GS3 for us while we are at work, since she has an at-home daycare. Well when it was discovered that GS3 had strep throat, SD23 refused to have him back at her house because of the other kids there. (Which she had every right to do.) SD22 of course got mad and said how it would inconvenience her, and all the other kids probably have strep throat anyway since they've been around GS3. Well they kept arguing, and SD22 said that SD23 will never ever watch GS3 again.

At this point SD22 had been kicked out of the place she was staying and was renting a hotel room. So she took GS3 to the hotel with her. SD26 (who also does not have custody of her kids and is also a stripper) agreed to stay with her at the hotel and split the cost since it was her weekend to have one of her kids. So in this motel is SD26, SD22, GS3, and GD1. The SD's got the grand idea of having SD26's boyfriend watch the kids while they go dance at night. Mind you the grandkids have no idea of who this person is. The last day my wife was in the hospital, we had agreed that the SD's could watch the kids at our house instead of wasting money on a hotel. So when I brought DW home from the hospital, there was the boyfriend in our house with the two grandkids. I made it clear to SD22 before we got there that we would not feel comfortable with some strange guy spending the night at our house. So I sent a text to SD22 letting her know this was not cool. Instead of responding to me, she calls and whines to DW. Little did I know that DW told her beforehand that it was okay that the boyfriend spent the night at our house. So once again I felt like what I say carries no weight when all they have to do is whine to DW. Because DW is sick and recovering from all of her surgeries, I didn't want to press the issue too much.

So then SD22 said that since she doesn't want the other SD watching GS3 anymore, she will just come over every morning at 5:30am right before I leave for work. She will spend the day watching GS3 and then just leave for work at night. I told DW I didn't really like the idea because then it's just like she's living with us again. But DW was worried about GS3 having to live in a motel, and the fact that SD22 doesn't have a license so she doesn't want him riding around in the car with her. Once again because DW is having some health issues, I backed off the issue. Of course for these past few days, SD22 is back to her old tricks. Always needing to leave the house for one reason or another and leaving me watching GS3. Our temporary guardianship ends at the end of Sept, and obviously SD22 will not have any money to get her own place since she's wasting money on hotel rooms.

Then on July 4th I had a moment of stupidity. I knew that DW's constant worrying about SD22 and GS3 was not helping her recover healthwise. I even broached the idea of letting SD22 move back in with us till the end of the temporary guardianship so she could save money. One of the conditions being that she will be solely responsible for taking care of GS3 until she goes to work each night. I wasn't really wanting to do this for no other reason except for DW's peace of mind. There would be other conditions too but we would work that out later.

So that same night July 4th SD22 invited SD26 over along with her boyfriend. DW went and sat outside to watch people shoot off fireworks, with GS3 outside with them. I look at the window and I see SD22 carrying a lighter along with something that looks like a cigarette. Now I know for a FACT that SD22 doesn't smoke cigarettes so I went outside to be nosey. SD22 is just walking around with a blunt smoking it in plain view in our driveway. I look at DW and she's just sitting in the chair talking with SD26 acting like she's oblivious to it all. Even more disturbing is that GS3 is right there outside with everybody else. You can tell that SD22 was being cocky about the whole thing because she looked right at me a couple of times. I told DW right then and there that there was no way in hell SD22 is moving back in with us and I went to bed.

When DW finally came to bed, I told her that I feel like she has absolutely no respect for me. She asked why. I said because she let SD22 just walk around our driveway smoking weed knowing that I don't approve of it. DW goes "Well, I figured it was a holiday, and at first I thought it was a cigarette...." I just stopped her in the middle of talking because she knows DAMN well SD22 doesn't smoke cigarettes. I said that is EXACTLY why SD22 will never move back in with us because DW constantly makes excuses for her behavior and lets her do whatever the hell she wants.

I'm so fucking tired of feeling like I don't get respect in my own home. Having to deal with SD22's shit again as well as worrying about DW's health is literally making me depressed again. July 3rd was our anniversary which we had to spend in the hospital because my wife had to get another surgical procedure done. Today is my birthday which I will spend taking care of my wife. Having to be around SD22 again is just driving me nuts, and I feel like breaking down today and crying. I think I just fucking give up on trying to fight against anything anymore.