Is there a CO in place that says that your DH is responsible to keep health insurance on skid? If so, I would think he has some ground to stand on.

Totally agree with snickersgal. I was in a similar situation. Ex was CO to provide insurance. He did but it was useless to me unless I wanted to drive my daughters 2 hours one way to go to the Dr. or emergancy room. So I put the girls on my insurance and used it. Ex got mad and tried to force me to use his insurance and to make me drop the girls from my plan. His deductalbe was twice as high, meds were more expensive so on and so on. The judge told him she could not and would not tell me to drop the girls from my plan. I have a constitutional right to provide for my children. She even changed the CO to allow me the right to use mine over his because of the availablity of coverage in my area.

Quite honestly its a smart move to carry SO children on your/his policy if possible. If there would be a major medical event there would be two policies to help cover the cost. If she is not forthcoming in the information on her policy so you can use it when they are with you, you have another option open to you. Whose birthday is earliest in the year SO or his ex? That is usually what is used to determine whose policy will be determined to be primary. Plus if he is CO to provide insurance he would be wise to follow the court order. Sounds like ex would be one that would later on try to slap him with a contempt charge.

The CO in our case states that NN is to provide health insurance as long as it is available to him (including through work) and BM is to provide insurance only if she can get it free or nominal cost.

Last year, BM got insurance for the skids and didn't tell us about it. Since she was the CP and the CO was written how it was (and she didn't give US the info as required in the CO), it ended up being SHE had primary insurance and ours was secondary. A WHOLE crapload of claims had to be reprocessed. Quite a fricken mess - THANKS BM. Then she dropped it right after SD had her baby.

But because BM is notoriously flaky, we just keep the skids on our insurance whether she has them covered or not.

And in our case, having two policies didn't make that big of a difference. Unfortunately, people think the second policy will pay what the first does not but that is not the case with most companies. However, NN is NOT giving BM money for anything over the COed CS and 1/2 the uninsured medical - he gets a reduction in CS for what he pays for insurance. If SHE wants to pay HER policy, that is HER choice. It benefits her more than it benefits the skids...